My wife is 13 weeks along today and her mood swings are crazy and I don't know the best way to approach them. Do any of you guys out there know how to handle the constant nagging and changing of her attitude? And her sex drive went from all the time to 3 times a month is this normal for the 1st trimester?
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My wife is pregnant and her mood swings are crazy and what happen to her sex drive?
- Thread starter Steven
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I am not a guy but I was a &%*%& during for about 2 months even before i found out i was pregnant .I broke up with my boyfriend like 3 times within 2 months. He took it well and I am trying to notice my mood swings more it is hard just be as sensitive as possible and let her know that you will be there for her . i am 5 months pregnant and my sex drive is crazy now i have to have sex like 3- 5 times a day . But for about 2 months it was very low . Try doing more foreplay and give her massages .
expecting ~again
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This made me laugh, lol & it sounds a lot like myself. It's just the pregnancy, she'll be normal again.. just give it some time. In the meantime, do try to do whatever she is asking of, cause the mood swings will only get crazier if you dont or if you freak out on her... try to understand what she's going through right now. Good Luck & congrats! ♥
expecting ~again
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This made me laugh, lol & it sounds a lot like myself. It's just the pregnancy, she'll be normal again.. just give it some time. In the meantime, do try to do whatever she is asking of, cause the mood swings will only get crazier if you dont or if you freak out on her... try to understand what she's going through right now. Good Luck & congrats! ♥
Steven, I understand your frustration with everything being so different and difficult. Men don't understand pregnancy all that much because they never have to go through it. I am going to completely outline what your wife is going through in terms that you will be able to relate to. Hear me out. Give your poor wife some sympathy. I'm 15 weeks prego, so I know what she is going through.
When a woman finds out she is pregnant, there are hormones rushing through her body and completely flooding her system. All these hormones cause an extreme imbalance. Imagine having a really hard day at work or when you were out and about. Someone hit your car, your wallet got stolen, your tires were slashed, your food that you ordered was all dried up and icky, a bird crapped on your new shirt, and you got stuck somewhere with a really annoying person on their cell phone. You'd be pretty flamed, right? Well, thanks to the hormones in your wife's body, that's how she feels, too. Except none of the bad stuff happened to her. That's just the way hormones are.
Morning sickness...ahh, the moniker that someone gave this awful pregnancy epidemic. I'd like to find the person who dubbed morning sickness and give him a good swift hard kick in the marbles!! Morning sickness lasts ALL DAY AND NIGHT. Being nauseous all the time...you know that feeling you get after you rode a rollercoaster one too many times? The feeling that lasts a few mins and goes away? That's what the nausea is like for us, but turn it up by 10 and know that it does NOT go away. Then the dry heaving. For no reason, we dry heave at many times during the day and at any point during the day. We could look at a white wall and dry heave. It's not fun. It's us walking around having to throw up all day long but we fight it. Imagine a time where you got terribly poo-poo faced. You felt that cold wave of nausea, your mouth salivated, and you knew that your stomach was about to reverse gears on you. So you run to the bathroom, but it won't come up because you can't help but almost fight it. But you long for relief and you stare into a place that was never designed for your face. It still won't come up. So you leave for a few mins to get some fresh air. It's not helping. You've been about to vomit for about a half hour now. Remember THAT feeling?? THAT'S MORNING SICKNESS!! ALL DAY AND NIGHT. EVERYDAY! That's the life of a pregnant woman!
This would also explain why her sex drive has nearly died. She's really tired from all the hormones, she's probably very sick, her breasts hurt as though they have been snapped in a bear trap, she's got headaches that have no relief, and then there's heartburn and so forth. Pregnancy is not always a fun thing. Not to mention...it can take a toll on our skin, too. I never have acne. As soon as I got prego, I look like a 15 year old girl. I actually use about 6 different acne face washes just to try to keep it under control, to barely no avail. It's a nightmare. I want to cry every time I look in the mirror.
There's just a little insight. Please give your wife a little more credit and sympathy. Understand that this is not a personal thing. She's going through so many changes. Just let her know that you love her no matter what and that you are there for her. Congrats on your new baby, too!
When a woman finds out she is pregnant, there are hormones rushing through her body and completely flooding her system. All these hormones cause an extreme imbalance. Imagine having a really hard day at work or when you were out and about. Someone hit your car, your wallet got stolen, your tires were slashed, your food that you ordered was all dried up and icky, a bird crapped on your new shirt, and you got stuck somewhere with a really annoying person on their cell phone. You'd be pretty flamed, right? Well, thanks to the hormones in your wife's body, that's how she feels, too. Except none of the bad stuff happened to her. That's just the way hormones are.
Morning sickness...ahh, the moniker that someone gave this awful pregnancy epidemic. I'd like to find the person who dubbed morning sickness and give him a good swift hard kick in the marbles!! Morning sickness lasts ALL DAY AND NIGHT. Being nauseous all the time...you know that feeling you get after you rode a rollercoaster one too many times? The feeling that lasts a few mins and goes away? That's what the nausea is like for us, but turn it up by 10 and know that it does NOT go away. Then the dry heaving. For no reason, we dry heave at many times during the day and at any point during the day. We could look at a white wall and dry heave. It's not fun. It's us walking around having to throw up all day long but we fight it. Imagine a time where you got terribly poo-poo faced. You felt that cold wave of nausea, your mouth salivated, and you knew that your stomach was about to reverse gears on you. So you run to the bathroom, but it won't come up because you can't help but almost fight it. But you long for relief and you stare into a place that was never designed for your face. It still won't come up. So you leave for a few mins to get some fresh air. It's not helping. You've been about to vomit for about a half hour now. Remember THAT feeling?? THAT'S MORNING SICKNESS!! ALL DAY AND NIGHT. EVERYDAY! That's the life of a pregnant woman!
This would also explain why her sex drive has nearly died. She's really tired from all the hormones, she's probably very sick, her breasts hurt as though they have been snapped in a bear trap, she's got headaches that have no relief, and then there's heartburn and so forth. Pregnancy is not always a fun thing. Not to mention...it can take a toll on our skin, too. I never have acne. As soon as I got prego, I look like a 15 year old girl. I actually use about 6 different acne face washes just to try to keep it under control, to barely no avail. It's a nightmare. I want to cry every time I look in the mirror.
There's just a little insight. Please give your wife a little more credit and sympathy. Understand that this is not a personal thing. She's going through so many changes. Just let her know that you love her no matter what and that you are there for her. Congrats on your new baby, too!
bunintheoven
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It is normal for a woman's sex drive to decrease dramatically from week 5 to about week 14 or 15. I was experiencing this, but my sex drive has been increasing like crazy over the last week. My doctor said that it is due to the hormones, and biologically speaking, the purpose for this in human evolution was to help prevent infections that could cause a first trimester miscarriage.
It is a survival instinct of sorts, just like more than likely you will have a drop in your levels of testosterone (which will decrease your sex drive) late in her third trimester as a natural defense against triggering labor too early. Don't worry, and be patient.
She is also probably dealing with some body image issues as well, and trust me, that is the quickest way to decrease sex drive. I was a size 4 prior to becoming pregnant and I have been stuck in maternity clothes since week 10. I felt like a fat blob, and lacked a lot of self confidence until I started showing obviously 2 weeks ago.
The best advice I can give is be patient, and reassure her that she is still beautiful. "Beauty isn't about what size you are, beauty is what you are doing right now. Our child is growing inside of you, and I am so proud of what we have created. Thank you for loving me and creating a child with me." Is what my husband said to me with his hand on my belly when some females started flirting toward him as he was standing with me upstairs at a rave. Just remember that every gesture great or small will impact her in ways that they never would have before. I wish you the best of luck, congratulations!
It is a survival instinct of sorts, just like more than likely you will have a drop in your levels of testosterone (which will decrease your sex drive) late in her third trimester as a natural defense against triggering labor too early. Don't worry, and be patient.
She is also probably dealing with some body image issues as well, and trust me, that is the quickest way to decrease sex drive. I was a size 4 prior to becoming pregnant and I have been stuck in maternity clothes since week 10. I felt like a fat blob, and lacked a lot of self confidence until I started showing obviously 2 weeks ago.
The best advice I can give is be patient, and reassure her that she is still beautiful. "Beauty isn't about what size you are, beauty is what you are doing right now. Our child is growing inside of you, and I am so proud of what we have created. Thank you for loving me and creating a child with me." Is what my husband said to me with his hand on my belly when some females started flirting toward him as he was standing with me upstairs at a rave. Just remember that every gesture great or small will impact her in ways that they never would have before. I wish you the best of luck, congratulations!