My (virgin) boyfriend doesn't want to have sex for 4 years?

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Well, me and my boyfriend are 19. He's a virgin, while me, I lost it to my ex. Anyway... Last week I tried to make a move. You can't always wait on guys, and girls have needs too. He told me he didn't want to do anything for another 4 years. I have to admit, he's got a lot of self control... I've tried everything from a strip-show, walking around his house naked, and sleeping with him totally naked (And we work out together too, so I was pretty confident about my looks... 34D-24-35). He still refused to do anything. Even with the offer of a threesome with a friend from one of my psych classes, he still said no. He's not gay, because, well his will isn't strong enough to stop the standard guy's bodily response to a naked girl pressed up against him...



According to him, the reasons for the long wait are:

1. "College is stressful enough, odd chance you get pregnant. We'll make even more stress for ourselves"
2. "There's always the chance you might not be the one. It'd really suck to lose it to you and find that out later. It might not be that special to you, but it actually means something to me, please respect that"
3. "Well, if you last 4 years without any sex, whatsoever, and don't cheat, you're probably the most faithful woman I'll ever meet, not that I don't trust you as is, it's just an added benefit that goes with the other two"


I really need to dispute these, but most of them seem like arguments I'd use if I were in his position, so I really don't know what to say.

I've got a very high sex drive, and I really don't know how to make it through this...

If anyone has any advice, either to help me get through to him, or how I can last another 4 years without sex, please...

And he's NOT gay.
A: I had one of my gay guy-friends check him out. He said he was 'unfortunately straight, but really cute'
B: His friends say he's straight, and they've all known him since he was 8. They're the kind of friends who wouldn't care, and he's the kind of guy who would have told them by now...
 
why dont you wait for him
if hes waited like 19 years im sure u can wait
its his virginity
so leave him alone
you should respect him about it
 
he has standards just like everyone else.

if you cant respect his decisions and all you want to do is change
his mind that obviously your not 100% for him cause you should love everything about that person that your with esp. for 4 years.
 
It sounds like he has a hidden motive something he doesn't want you knowing like he wants to wait till he's married but he doesn't want to sound like a pansie. Also that whole "if you don't cheat on me" thing sounds like a test and if i was you i'd be really angry with him
 
Your boyfriend is making the right decision, in my opinion. Whether you agree with him or not, you need to respect his wishes and not be a jerk about it. If you were in his situation, wouldn't you be really irritated and probably leave if you were constantly harassed by someone to give up your morals? If you really think you can't make it through it, it's probably time that you see a counselor. No one's sex drive is that high and still healthy.
 
Your boyfriend is making the right decision, in my opinion. Whether you agree with him or not, you need to respect his wishes and not be a jerk about it. If you were in his situation, wouldn't you be really irritated and probably leave if you were constantly harassed by someone to give up your morals? If you really think you can't make it through it, it's probably time that you see a counselor. No one's sex drive is that high and still healthy.
 
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