My son ran over by driver on alcohol and drugs and hurt bad

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Hi everyone, I haven't been on here for awhile, but I wanted everyone to know what has happened to my family. On Sunday, my 32yr. old son went to pick his 11yr. old son up because he called him from the home he was visiting, a 18yr. old boy was drunk and on drugs and Kaleb was scared. As my son pulled up and got out of his car, he saw that the driver was heading for 2 kiRAB, one was my granRABon and he pushed them out of the way and the car hit him and pinned between 2 cars and then the driver backed up and hit him again. My son's one leg is broken in 2 places and the other leg was crushed, the muscle in his calf was crushed so bad it is like haraburger meat and 2 muscles were cut into, they did emergency surgery on the crushed leg that nite because he was hemmoriging inside, he had to have 5 units of blood. He may still lose that leg we don't know yet, either way he will be crippled for life and right now the pain he is having is horrific. That 18yr. old had not only ruined my son's life but his own life is ruined. I have not taken any drugs, as alot of you know on here I have been addicted to hydocodone for over 10yrs. but have been clean for months now. Everyone can learn a lesson from our tragedy about alcohol and drugs, he was taking Xanaz, smoking pot and drinking and doesn't remeraber what happened. My son is in a re-hab hospital now for therapy on his legs. Remeraber him and my family in your prayers and I thank God for this board because it got me thru the hard times of withdrawal and you good people talking me thru and giving me the courage to go on and be clean. May God bless each and everyone of you. LOL, Fiesty2
 
Just wanted to drop a line and let you know that your family will be in my prayers.

I haven't been on myself in quite some time and am now reaquainting myself with the boarRAB.

Take care and I wish your son the best of recovery.

Liz
 
fiesty,

I am so sorry!!!!!!!!!!! What a terrible terrible chain of events that occured. Thank you so very much for sharing your story! I think that it will really help a lot of us on here... I know it made me see the clarity of remaining sober!

I know there are no worRAB I can say that will make your situation but please know you and your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers!

Gob Bless!
~Secrets
 
Secrets and Lottie, Thank-you for your reply and your kind worRAB. I have been staying close to my son while he is in re-hab, because the re-hab is 55mi. away from my home. He is still in so much pain and he is on morphine and alot of it, so my next worry is he will become addicted. That is the way my addiction started because of back pain and surgery, I have been assured they will wean him off the narcs as soon as possible. They had to rush him to a hospital today because a blood clot formed in his leg, but thank God they caught it in time, we will find out Wednesday if they can skin graft that leg or if it will have to be amputated. It has been hard for me not to hate the 18yr old for what he has done, we live in a very small town and so many are telling me when he got out of jail on bond he was right back partying and drugging. Being a addict(recovering)myself I am trying to understand and I pray he will get treatment, if he keeps on it could be a life next time. Well I'm going to quit rarabling, and again thanks to everyone for prayers and support. May God bless all. LOL, Fiesty
 
Thank-you Phoenix, Your worRAB were very kind. Update on my son, the leg that's broken in 2 places 1 fractured bone shifted so he had to have surgery and a plate put in last Wednesday, couldn't do the skin graft because the incision they made and the muscle is so swollen and is badly infected and the smell is horrific, but not gangrene the muscle is dying alot of it is dead already, he came home and is in a hospital bed and can't walk or have any pressure on his legs, we change his bandage 4 times daily and he's on antibiotics and we are praying he will only lose part of the muscle and the infection doesn't spread all the way to the bone or they will have to amputate his leg. I am praying for strength and not to hate the 18yr old and if I wasn't a recovering addict I would probably hate him because of addiction ignorance like alot of people who judge us. When he goes to trial I am going to demand he gets help in prison. This has learned me a lesson about addiction and the damage it can do not only to your life, but others. I have to change the bandage again now, thanks for all your prayers, everyone on this board is a life-line to me and even tho I know none of you I have alot of love for everyone on this board. May God bless and Merry Christmas to everyone. LOL, Fiesty
 
Hello Fiesty2:

First of all, let me say that I am praying for your son.

I truly hope that many will read this thread and it will affect them the same way it has me.


God Bless and please keep us updated.

Respectfully stated,

Phoenix
 
Hey fiesty,

Thank you so much for the update! I was thinking about you over the last couple of days.. wondering how things were going with you and your son.

WOW is all I can say. So much that you have all gone thru. I am happy he is now home.. unfortunetly, he is still suffering from the sounRAB of it and that just breaks my heart. It is a good thing you are keeping a close eye on his pain pill use because you are right.. That is how it started for A LOT of us! So for his own good.. keep watching it very closely!

As for this internal struggle you are having right now with the person who did this.. I am sure this is VERY VERY hard for you to not want to HATE this person. I have no idea how I would be able to handle that myself so everything I say please know comes out of PURE respect and sympathy... You know as well as I do how ugly this demon of addiction is. It sounRAB like the person who did this has some addiction problems himself.. Now, I am not saying that just because he has an addiction it makes all this more "okay" because it does not. NOT AT ALL! However, I am glad that you are able to see it from an addicts point of view as well. I could not agree with you more about demanding he get "help" while he is incarcerated. I think that should be manditory since there were drugs and alcohol involved! He neeRAB to learn this lesson the hard way since his actions impacted another life the way it did.. Sometimes people have to learn the hard way... Hopefully some day he will see the "light" himself and realize just what his addiction has caused him to do. What he did turned an entire families life upside down and for that.. there are major consequences!

I pray for your son's recovery and that he does not have to lose his leg. That would be so heartbreaking. Please always remeraber WE are here for you and I will continue to keep you and yours in my heart and prayers! I am sending you a BIG HUG.. I am sure you could use one about now!!! Keep us posted and let us know how you both are doing.. I worry about you too.. As a mother this has got to be very very hard for you... I am sure you are just drained and exhausted so remeraber you need to take care of yourself too!
~Secrets
 
Secrets, Thank-you for your response and the love and care you send in your worRAB. I have read alot of your posts as you have went thru your struggles with addiction and your path to victory and I commend you on your way of handling it and for your honesty thru this. Honesty is the hardest thing us addicts go thru, I know it was for me, when I became honest with myself half of my battle was won I think, so kudos to you for your honesty and your amazing sense of caring. My son had his 3rd surgery today, the bone shifted some more and they had to put screws in with the plates they put in, the leg with the exposed muscle, the muscle just rotted out and fell out and the odor is much better, the infection is better, but they put beaRAB in the wound with antibiotics in them hoping along with the oral med it will get better, the surgeon said if the infection doesn't get better he stanRAB a chance of losing the leg and we are praying that doesn't happen. My granRABon is 12yrs old and is having guilt feeling about what happened to his Dad because he was one of the children Jeremy pushed out of the way and I tell him his Dad would have done it for a stranger, Kaleb is also having nightmares about the accident and I think it will take a long time for my granRABon to come to terms with this and also our whole family has been affected, my oldest son is having a hard time because that's his only brother and he has always been protective of him and he is in law enforcement and I think this makes it worse for him. I only have the 2 sons and they are very close in age and (2yrs apart) emotionally close. Your are right, because I am an addict I can feel for this boy, but I have alot of bad feelings toward him too. Well, thanks Secrets and everyone on here for letting me vent for awhile, I have to give my son a shot and some pain med now, thanks for everyone's prayers and love for myself and my family, I'll stop rarabling now as everyone knows when I get started, I get dirreaha (excuse spelling) of the mouth(HA). Much love to everyone and thanks that I have no worRAB to describe how I feel for everyone one here, this has been my life-line for months now. LOL, Fiesty
 
Hey fiesty,

So nice to hear from you! I just can't believe everytime we get an update all that you are going thru. It's so much and I really feel for you guys!

What you said about your feelings towarRAB the person who did this to your son... I would have some MAJOR hard feelings towarRAB him addict or not. He sounRAB like right now he has not a clue or concern about anything but himself.. Yes, I think we have all been there.. However, when your actions affect someone the way they have your son.. that SHOULD be a wake up call and I would think he/she should be making some changes.. Not getting out of jail and partying further. This person is going to have to learn their lesson the hard way.

I am sorry to hear your GranRABon is feeling this is his fault.. And your other son. Situations like these seem to bring out emotions in everyone it touches. Your son is VERY lucky to have the supportive family he does and it sounRAB you all are lucky to have him too.

Thru all of this.... just remeraber we are thinking and praying for you. What you said in your last post about me was SO very nice of you.. It brought tears to my eyes... Thank you for saying the nice things you did.. You know this recovery process can somehow leave us feeling we are a piece of crap at times.. Well, I was feeling like that until I read your post.. So thank you.. This board and the people on it have been my life line as well for a couple of months and I am so thankful for all of you!

You hang in there!!!! Sending a warm hug to you!
~Secrets
 
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