Midnight-Angel25
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writer, could use some critique.? I want badly to be a successful writer... Not just to make money, but because I like to write and hope that what I write can help someone someday. My subject is on what is newly called "Limerance" this is like the devil of all crushes, but let me explain more about it in my essay.
Limerence
Limerence can start in a lot of ways. I have experienced it at least twice in my life, maybe even three times although one of those situations had turned out quite confusing and stayed this way until recently, and then faded.
To see the difference between limerence and a regular crush is pretty difficult for many people, causing them to wonder why we don’t just call it a “crush”. But I’ve seen the difference, I was there and sometimes I tend to wonder if the word sort of evolved, (if I may use that word) from the term “limbo”. Because that’s how it feels a lot of the time. Let me explain the differences between a normal crush and limerence.
A normal crush: Finding someone attractive and hoping that something happens between the two of you. I find this one more grounded on lust, because it’s usually about physical attraction in the beginning and it doesn’t go that deep. It’s more like “hey, if they’re around that would be awesome”! “if not, oh well maybe I’ll just hope to see ________. And then the crush goes to a different person. Just like that, I know like I said I’ve experienced it.
Limerence: You met this interesting person. You’re not even sure if it was their looks that attracted you to them, but something made you feel as if you had such a close connection with them, almost as if you may have known them for a really long time. So you wonder everyday, where have I met this person before? I just HAD to have known them, I mean they seem to know ME so well! Something about this person makes you constantly wonder and think about them all the time. You ask yourself if you’re falling in love. Not too long after you tend to really believe that you are and that this person must be the one, because no one could ever compare to them, even with the very little the two of you know about each other. You hope to see them every day. If you don’t, you feel cold as stone, disconnected from the world and reality. You can’t stand hardly anyone of their gender because you keep hoping that it’s really _____ when you see someone walking towards you, or even in the distance as far as you can see.
Limerence can be time consuming, mind consuming, and physically consuming as well. It can go on for YEARS. It can affect ones work, even relationships with family and friends. It can actually make you feel as if you’re in a dream world (and we all know that can’t be safe)!
There is not a yet known cure for this stronghold of feelings for whomever it’s directed. But I can tell you something that seemed to work for me… Well gradually. I repeated this phrase to myself but I had to keep doing it regularly before it started to work.
Limerence
Limerence can start in a lot of ways. I have experienced it at least twice in my life, maybe even three times although one of those situations had turned out quite confusing and stayed this way until recently, and then faded.
To see the difference between limerence and a regular crush is pretty difficult for many people, causing them to wonder why we don’t just call it a “crush”. But I’ve seen the difference, I was there and sometimes I tend to wonder if the word sort of evolved, (if I may use that word) from the term “limbo”. Because that’s how it feels a lot of the time. Let me explain the differences between a normal crush and limerence.
A normal crush: Finding someone attractive and hoping that something happens between the two of you. I find this one more grounded on lust, because it’s usually about physical attraction in the beginning and it doesn’t go that deep. It’s more like “hey, if they’re around that would be awesome”! “if not, oh well maybe I’ll just hope to see ________. And then the crush goes to a different person. Just like that, I know like I said I’ve experienced it.
Limerence: You met this interesting person. You’re not even sure if it was their looks that attracted you to them, but something made you feel as if you had such a close connection with them, almost as if you may have known them for a really long time. So you wonder everyday, where have I met this person before? I just HAD to have known them, I mean they seem to know ME so well! Something about this person makes you constantly wonder and think about them all the time. You ask yourself if you’re falling in love. Not too long after you tend to really believe that you are and that this person must be the one, because no one could ever compare to them, even with the very little the two of you know about each other. You hope to see them every day. If you don’t, you feel cold as stone, disconnected from the world and reality. You can’t stand hardly anyone of their gender because you keep hoping that it’s really _____ when you see someone walking towards you, or even in the distance as far as you can see.
Limerence can be time consuming, mind consuming, and physically consuming as well. It can go on for YEARS. It can affect ones work, even relationships with family and friends. It can actually make you feel as if you’re in a dream world (and we all know that can’t be safe)!
There is not a yet known cure for this stronghold of feelings for whomever it’s directed. But I can tell you something that seemed to work for me… Well gradually. I repeated this phrase to myself but I had to keep doing it regularly before it started to work.