my boyfriend was probably the worst boyfriend in the world for about 4-5 months. he started hanging around the wrong kinds of people (frat boys), started going behind my back, crossing-lines with girls (went on dates behind my back...i eventually found out), lied to me, broke many promises we'd made to each other, abused me sexually and emotionally, but i knew he was still the same guy i fell in love with, he'd just strayed a bit.
i've helped him see that the things he used to do in those 4-5 months were horrible douche-bag things, things that have almost damaged me beyond repair, and he's completely turned back around. he stopped hanging around with those...people....and he's stopped abusing me. he's back to his old self mostly, and so i've tried and tried to move on, but it's just so hard.
i'll see something or hear something from that time period and i'll just instantly get this feeling of dread and unimportance. its hard for me to get out of it, and i'll usually start crying. i want to get over everything, but things and words and phrases always remind me and i feel like i can't just forgive him for the things he's done.
what should i do? please don't say "break up with him" because he's not that horrible guy anymore...he just got messed up for a bit
i've helped him see that the things he used to do in those 4-5 months were horrible douche-bag things, things that have almost damaged me beyond repair, and he's completely turned back around. he stopped hanging around with those...people....and he's stopped abusing me. he's back to his old self mostly, and so i've tried and tried to move on, but it's just so hard.
i'll see something or hear something from that time period and i'll just instantly get this feeling of dread and unimportance. its hard for me to get out of it, and i'll usually start crying. i want to get over everything, but things and words and phrases always remind me and i feel like i can't just forgive him for the things he's done.
what should i do? please don't say "break up with him" because he's not that horrible guy anymore...he just got messed up for a bit