my parents are arguing way too much?

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and it's gotten to the point where my dad says something extremely horrible and out of line and my mom ends up crying her eyes out, then my dad says something really inconsiderate (ex. she cries so much because she's a drama queen). today, he said that the house we live in as a family is not OUR house. it's HIS house. and that my mom has no part in it. I just hear their arguments all the time and it's extremely traumatizing. I just don't like hearing them fight. they argue downstairs as if I wasn't able to hear them, and I just feel like I'm going to burst out crying. I sometimes feel that my is going to commit suicide because she had emotional trauma as a child because my grandparents treated her horribly and my dad just makes everythig worse. I feel like one day when she's alone and my dad's at work and I'm at school, I feel like she's going to take all her painkillers for her back at once. I just feel like I'm going through this traumatizing experience alone because my brother just left for college.


please help. I need some sort of encouragement.
the thing is, no matter how badly my dad treats my mom, she still loves him and doesn't want to get a divorce. my parents are the type of people thtlat wants to keep everything in the family. if I were to tell a teacher or whatever, I would be in huuuge trouble. my parents don't like other people knowing what'd going on in our lives. I've tried talking to my dad about it, but he's not easy to have a conversation with. he tends to change the story so it's more convinient for him and also interrupts alot. having a talk with him is like talking to a wall: nothing changes. he's always right and we're always wrong.
 
wow you just described my childhood

the only thing I can tell you is, you will get through this and that its not your fault. They are the adults and it's up to them to work it out. Maybe you can sit down and write them each a long letter explaining your take on there relationship and what its doing to you.
 
this may sound mean... inconsiderate but from what you've said i think they need a divorce its obviously destroying you and your family. try talking to your mom about it without your dad being there it seems like he thinks he's in control of everything, comfort her. its verbal abuse which is horrible for anyone to go through. talk to someone you trust about it teacher, counselor, relative who knows you and your parents. my advice would be to leave with your mom when your dads not around.
 
Hey, Things will get better, i know that may not be what u wanna hear, but they will. Have you spoken to your mum about how she feels about your dad? Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Talk to them, the worst thing you can do is try and keep it bottled up inside of you and let them think that your ok with the situation. Has your dad always been like that? Maybe he is under a lot of pressure or stress at work or maybe something else is going on in his life to make him act like this? It also sounds like hes being very controlling, which could get worse, or he could realize he's being an arse and snap out of it. I do hope things improve for you! try and keep positive, dont let it bring you down to much and most of all....SMILE....and dont be afraid to let your feelings out!
Take care.
G.
 
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