My mother is ill but my wife told me to stop sending financial help to her and

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my sister.? My mother has been admitted to the hospital in Thailand since December and now became very ill due to renal failure. She is also under hemodialysis on top of her medicines and hospital expenses. I have exhaulted all our savings and now depending on our equity line of credit. Unfortunately, there is no financial assistance in Thailand to help pay for some of my mother's medical expenses.

I am married for 16 years in the US with 3 children ages 15, 14, and 9. Most of the people is Thailand think we have enough money to support my mother's medical bill and depending on me as the only provider to pay for my mother's hospitalization and dialysis. I also have a sister in Thailand who is taking care of her and working at the same time but then again exalted all her financial resources.

Over the years of my stay in the US, my wife and I was able to invest into two properties, one is rental and the other is our main residence. Both of these properties were not paid off and we are paying monthly morgage in which almost all of my income goes to paying the monthly mortgage. Like I mentioned earlier, the only financial resource I have is to borrow from my line of credit BUT my wife told me to stop doing it or we may run out of funds for other emergency purposes.

It is difficult for me to hear from relatives what my mom is going through. Should I listen to my wife to stop sending money to my mother and let her die or tell my wife to shut-up because I will help ailing mother whatever it takes even if we ran out of resources.

I am not saying my mother is a perfect mom but she put me through college in Thailand and that was my ticket to get a descent job in the US. I feel I owe her a lot and she badly needs my help.

What should I tell to my wife.
 
Do what is right, don't live with a heavy stone in your heart for the rest of your life. Doing the right thing may not win the immediate support of those around you, but you'll know, in time to come, you will gain the respect of your children for doing what's right. It's time to step up to the plate and tell your wife that you will do what's right because in time to come, your wife will respect you for standing up for what's morally right. If you listen to your wife now and ignore your mother, you will never ever win the respect of your wife either because she will know that you're easily swayed by her words.
 
I think you should continue helping your mother.
Tell your wife that if it was her mom that was sick in Thailand, wouldn't she help her mother too?
 
Your responsibility lies with your family - your wife and kids.

Whats going to happen when you run out of money - your kids will go hungry - is that what you want?

YOu have helped your mum...but you need to help yourself and your new family now.
 
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