my mother in law is a smoker whats your opinion?

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i'm not into smoker bashing, but my mother in law is an avid smoker. i'm talking like palmal 100 lights 3 to 4 an hour. i cant stand it any more. its driving me nuts. any ideas how to handle this situation? shes been visiting since dec 8 and going home around jan 10. i'm trying to get pregnant and i know the second hand smoke is horrible for me, but i just dont know how to handle this situation.
 
Wow, since December 8th, I would not have lived pass the first time of her smoking in my house. I do agree that is rude for her to come and smoke and not ask you or your husband if that is okay, presuming that your husband is a non-smoker as well of course. Let her know that you have just become very sensitive to smoke and that you feel sick whenever she lights up, so to please go outside. Get your husband to tell her that you both don't want smoke smell in the house. Why respect her when she obviously doesn't seem to respect you.
 
You don't want to worry about second hand smoke. Most of that stuff was just to keep pressure groups happy, and make some sort of rationale for banning smoking in public places. The real reason smoking was banned in workplaces was an attempt to reduce the overall level of smoking (first-hand), as this could reduce government health care expenditure.
 
I smoke. I know bad habit! But I never ever smoke in someones house. Especially a non smoker. Very rude! It will be hard to stop it now since it has started. Next time she comes into town I would put no smoking signs up. Front door would be a good start!
 
I compleatly understand u! If they want to kill themselfs they shouldnt drag non smokers down with them lol in other words have a bit of respect for others! I have this prob with my mum n her bf i dont mind people smoking if thats what they choose but why not not near us or at least open windows! I know its an addiction so its not easy to just quit n stuff but yeh like i said have respect my mum didnt even quit when she was pregnant with me! I was born weighing 3 pounds n had lots of problems not that im blaming smoking compleaty but it probablly didnt help the situation
 
If it's your home she stays in, you have every right to ask her not to smoke in your house. If she doesn't like that she can stay at a hotel where she can smoke.

She probably doesn't know that it bothers you so, you need to tell her in a kind way.

**EDIT** Actually, I was thinking about this and it's your husband who should say something. Your mother in law will probably take ti better coming from him.
 
it's a visit, not an invasion. you have a short time left. think about something else.
 
Second hand smoke is awful for everyone, including pets. If she is in your home, you have the right to say no smoking in my house. Once she leaves you are going to be stuck with that smell for long time, if you ever even get rid of it. Set up an area outside that's somewhat comfortable and politely, but firmly, say: "I'm sorry but I don't appreciate your smoking in my home, but I've created an area outside for you and I'd appreciate if you would only smoke in that area. Thank you." It'll be tough, but you need to take care of your health and any other living creatures in the home from her toxic smoke.
 
get air fresheners in the house and also tell her no smoking in the house ITS YOUR HOUSE FOR GOD SAKE she should be more understandable to you and if she gets mad then let her get mad smoking is bad for every one tell her that too good luck. :)
 
I think you should definitely speak up if you don't want your mom-in-law smoking in your home. I agree, if it hasn't been mentioned, she may not realize it's a problem. I would just explain that you're so glad she's staying with you and you don't want to make her feel uncomfortable, but that the cigarette smoke really bothers you. Then ask her if she would mind stepping outside to smoke. Set up a little area for her with an ashtray and a comfy chair, perhaps a space heater if it's cold out. Hopefully, she will understand that it's the smoke, not her, that you want out of the house. Also, I would ask your partner to join the conversation with you.
 
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