My mother-in-law hates me!! What should I do?

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My husband and I have been married for two years. He is a black man and I am white. We have a 5 month old daughter together.
My mother-in-law has hated me from day one. To my face, she says that her problem with me is that she didn't want her son to get married so young ( He was 22, I was 20). But, behind my back and even to my husband she says that it is because I am white. She has been very open about it. She didn't even attend our wedding. It didn't really bother me, until I had my daughter. Before, I just figured that she would get over it, eventually, one day. But, since I have had my daughter, she has only seen her once.I want my daughter to have two sets of grandparents. I want her to know both sides of her family, not just my side.
In the beginning my husband was vocal with her about it, but he has given up. It seems like he just doesn't care anymore. He actually goes to his mama's house every Sunday, while I stay at home with our daughter.
I don't know how to get her to overcome this, so that my daughter will have the relationship that she deserves with her grandparents.
I realize that he should stand up for us, and it really bothers me that he doesn't. But, I don't want to make him choose between us and the other side of his family. We get into fights over this issue a lot. He always just tells me that there's no changing his mama and to let it go. It is a huge issue for me though, and I don't understand why her wouldn't want them to know his daughter.
 
If your husband knew how is mom was at first, why would he even marry a different race?-----Because he loves you and didn't care what his mom thought. He should continue not caring, but that includes letting her know that if my wife and daughter are not welcomed, he should not go either. Once you are married, your spouse becomes #1 in your life and anyone that disrespects you are also disrespecting him. He needs to let his mom know that you are a package deal now and she either accepts you and your daughter or he will cut off all ties with her. Good Luck!!!
 
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