My mother and I don't get along. I'm a grown woman (almost 27) My mother came to visit me yesterday on her own accord. I didn't invite her because we don't get along and our relationship has gotten worse over the years. When she said she was coming, I asked her did she want to visit and she said yes. But we can't be in the same room together.
Yesterday, I was bracing myself for the problems to start but any disagreements we had were slight.
Today, the full blown argument has just occurred. We were on our way out and I'm asking her some questions about the DMV (I have to go next week). So she starts raising her voice at me. She said I was asking dumb questions. She curses at me in public and acts annoyed at me. She talked down to me in front of some people outside. It is embarrassing. Her voice is really loud and she does this all the time. So I said forget it I'm not going anywhere with you.
When we get back inside we had a really nasty argument. I said some mean things back because I felt provoked at this point. She accuses me of making her feel uncomfortable in my house.(not true). I go out of my way to accomodate her. I let her watch whatever she wants on TV (pure freaking garbage but the TV seems to be all she cares about) and gets the things she wants to eat (she's a very finnicky eater too). If anything, she makes it hard for me when I visit her which is why I stopped going that often and making my visits very short when I do.
What should I do at this point? Would you tell her to leave? At one point, she was saying she was about to but she's still here. But I'm just sick of this sh1t. I don't know what to do anymore.
Yesterday, I was bracing myself for the problems to start but any disagreements we had were slight.
Today, the full blown argument has just occurred. We were on our way out and I'm asking her some questions about the DMV (I have to go next week). So she starts raising her voice at me. She said I was asking dumb questions. She curses at me in public and acts annoyed at me. She talked down to me in front of some people outside. It is embarrassing. Her voice is really loud and she does this all the time. So I said forget it I'm not going anywhere with you.
When we get back inside we had a really nasty argument. I said some mean things back because I felt provoked at this point. She accuses me of making her feel uncomfortable in my house.(not true). I go out of my way to accomodate her. I let her watch whatever she wants on TV (pure freaking garbage but the TV seems to be all she cares about) and gets the things she wants to eat (she's a very finnicky eater too). If anything, she makes it hard for me when I visit her which is why I stopped going that often and making my visits very short when I do.
What should I do at this point? Would you tell her to leave? At one point, she was saying she was about to but she's still here. But I'm just sick of this sh1t. I don't know what to do anymore.