I can't thank you enough for sharing this. I came here to gather information on my sinus issues, but somehow ended up here. My husband is an alcoholic and we have an almost 3-year-old son. Last week I finally had the balls to tell him that unless he gets help, our marriage will be over. Which stinks, because I love him so very much. He is in denial, because he goes to work, he is a great father, so in his mind how could he be an alcoholic? We've made him an appt. with an addiction specialist at the end of the month. I'm hoping the counselor will be able to clarify to my husband that addicts aren't just one type of people. Some say that addicts are the hardest workers and you'd never knowthey were an addict at all.
I am so scared right now. What will happen to my home? Am I going to be able to make it financially? How will this affect my son, who is in love with his Daddy? How will I get through this, because although I am starting to get bitter, I still love him very, very much. We have been married for almost 11 years.
So yes, I'm petrified. But I've finally found the strength to stand by this ultimatum. Step by step. Gotta get through this first appt. and then see. If he continues to go and gets a little better, then we'll give it another few weeks and see how he does. But if he goes to that first appt and refuses to return, that's it. I have to go on with my life. I've spent the last 10 years of my life looking after him and putting my dreams on hold in order to take care of him. As much as I hate to have to leave him sad and lonely, it's time for me and my son to start LIVING!!
Thanks again for posting, dear.