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Kammy B
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Lets start by saying this is a long story. I am Catholic, my husbands family strict Christian (baptist) His parents before we were married sat down with my hubby and tried to "convince" him to not marry me cause "I was going to hell for not being Christian" he ignored them and married me which made them angry. Theyhave made no effort to get to know me or our children. I have been married to him now for over 3 years and they cant even spell my name! they have done things like make up serious lies, tell my hubby i am bi-polar which I'm not, said to him that I was coming over to their house in the middle of the night and stealing their mail (gee thxs, I have enough bills of my own, I dont need yours) and threatening to call the police on me. My mom in law has grabbed and twisted my arm so hard she bruised me.
The kicker was, when I had our 1 year old daughter on my hip, his sister looked at me and said, "you and Kaleigh (my daughter) will never be part of OUR family until you go Christian" She said this in front of my hubby. He said, enough is enough, my daughter did nothing to you and he hasn't spoken to them in almost a year. I would be perfectly fine with this except that he is miserable. I have no idea on what to do. Do I encourage him to build a relationshiop with his family? Or do I leave it alone cause they were making me miserable? Oh yeah, when we were in contact with them, I washaving anxiety attacks and seizures (I'm epileptic) I am worried for my health cause of the stress they put on me.
I should mention, I'm happy! I have tried to be patient with my hubby and I have tried not to influence him cause this is his family and cutting them out is a big deal obviously. He never wants to talk about it. I feel guilty for being the cause of these problems. I am not willing to go baptitst though. I love being Catholic and i shouldn't have to sacrifice who i am in order to please other people. But my hubby is so sad, he says he has no family left. And it breaks my heart to see him miserable. We have had another child and his family knows and they said they dont even care to see him or have a picture. They will only see our kids if my hubby divorces me or I go Christian. This can't be good for my kids either, all this fighting.
The kicker was, when I had our 1 year old daughter on my hip, his sister looked at me and said, "you and Kaleigh (my daughter) will never be part of OUR family until you go Christian" She said this in front of my hubby. He said, enough is enough, my daughter did nothing to you and he hasn't spoken to them in almost a year. I would be perfectly fine with this except that he is miserable. I have no idea on what to do. Do I encourage him to build a relationshiop with his family? Or do I leave it alone cause they were making me miserable? Oh yeah, when we were in contact with them, I washaving anxiety attacks and seizures (I'm epileptic) I am worried for my health cause of the stress they put on me.
I should mention, I'm happy! I have tried to be patient with my hubby and I have tried not to influence him cause this is his family and cutting them out is a big deal obviously. He never wants to talk about it. I feel guilty for being the cause of these problems. I am not willing to go baptitst though. I love being Catholic and i shouldn't have to sacrifice who i am in order to please other people. But my hubby is so sad, he says he has no family left. And it breaks my heart to see him miserable. We have had another child and his family knows and they said they dont even care to see him or have a picture. They will only see our kids if my hubby divorces me or I go Christian. This can't be good for my kids either, all this fighting.