My husband is very childish. 'Sex' is out of his Brain Dictionary. What do i do?

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anonymous

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i have been married 8 months.. And since then i have noticed my husband only wants to talk about cute things like little kids do.,. He talks about little bees and fishes.. He talks about certain foods that make him excited.. He talks about everything that is cute and baby-like.. He will never talk about sex.. Even if i do start talking about it, he will pretend that he doesnt understand what i am trying to say.. He will make love only in that traditional basic position, if we try anything new then it hurts him and the he will act as if he is unaware of any other positions and that he doesnt have any knowledge about more than that.

All these things that he has done since these 8 months makes me feel totally unattracted to him.. I dont feel like he is that "real"man that i wanted to feel passionate about.. i feel "passion" for him is a totally whacko thing.. i feel embarrassed to make love to him, cos i feel like so weird n stuff.. before marriage when we were dating, he was pretty normal, that "hot" guy that i felt attracted to.. Now he has completely changed, and acts like all "cute" and stuff.. How do i make him understand that i feel weird cos of it?
 
Tell him exactly that. Be straight up with and tell him how you've been feeling lately. If you gotta be blunt about it to get his attention.. so be it. He needs a wake up call!
 
You need to talk. If he was "normal" before marriage, then you need to find out where that guy went, and when he is coming back... Good luck.
 
Tell him that he's acting childish and that you want him to be more passionate in bed. Were you his first girl experience or was he a virgin when you met him? If so you might want to start watching porn that will give him lots of training.
 
maybe he's trying to turn you off for some reason. try to find out why he doesn't want to have sex with you, which is obvious to see, by the way. putting on the little boy act is a cover up to evade sex. maybe he doesn't really like women. if you haven't changed, and you're not being physically too rough, then there's no reason i can see other than that. or maybe he wants to be spanked, LOL!
 
You could be dealing with a little bit more than just cutesy behavior. You husband seems to have reverted to a child-like state. Maybe you should see a therapist. He maybe has some unresolved sexual issues and is not sure how to deal with it, could be he was abused as a child, never know. I rather doubt he is that naive that he wouldn't know other positions. See a therapist. There is something out of place here and he is obviously troubled. His wanting to act childish is a safety net. That may be his coping mechanism, pushing him to have sex may not be the answer. Get help.
 
He just needs to find his groove. I used to baby talk my girlfriend all the time, but when it got to the bedroom she knew who was boss. Id grab 2 scarves, blind fold her and tie her hands up and then just destroy her until she woke up the neighbors. Just talk to him and let him know exactly what you told us.
 
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