My husband, brother-in-law and myself work at the same business. ?

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My husband and I do not leave when ask if we want "no work", but my brother-in-law does and he is single and can't pay his bills as it is. When he is short on cash, my husband feels obligated to help him financially, buy him groceries, etc. We have a baby due very soon. How can I get my husband to understand that if his brother is not going to help himself, then he needs to show him some "tough love" and quit aiding him? It drives me insane because now that work is slower than normal, we are all being forced to take a cut in hours and need to watch what is being spent. I have made it clear that his brother moving in is NOT and option.
 
Ok if you have known this since early on you must continue with things as they are.I understand you have a baby on the way but if your hubby has been helping the slacker all along you cannot expect him to jump ship on little brother.This is almost like a mommas boy,you cannot change what you have accepted to be you should have dated no further into this.Now if this is a new situation state your claim and let hubby handle,don't put him in the position to lie or sneak around you to help.Then whole family will be involved with you not knowing and you will feel awkward when all comes out.If hubby is doing what is needed at home you cannot insist he not help family.This never works out good.
 
You are right..your husband is doing his brother no favours at all...all he is doing is enabling him to continue to depend on others. You spoke to your husband about all of this but he continues to support his brother..it seems you wont have much control over this ,but you do have control over who lives in your home..stick to you decision not to allow him live in your home...do NOT back down on this matter.
 
Well I guess you are already doing the tough talk. Your husband better understand the situation and so may his brother. Its not just about earning for oneself. Its also about being worth something and unless one could not contribute with any work, he isn't worthy too.
 
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