My husband and i have been discussing adoption but I cant find basic guidelines...

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Elle

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...anywhere (live in UK)...? Long story short...
We have a baby boy (we are the biological parents), we have a nice house, both good jobs (husband in police) and we are both really normal, decent people.
We have been very lucky in our life and we would like for another child to be able to have the standard of life we can offer as well as unconditional support and love , which many kids in our society dont have.
However, a few years ago I was charged with the police for being over the limit while driving and lost my license for a year which i am to this day DEEPLY ashamed.
Would this stop me from adopting?
Incase anyone suggests fostering, i have to say no to that due to other reasons.
Is there a web page that would be able to point me in the right direction to find out who can and who cant adopt in the UK.
Oh and we would not be bothered if it was not a baby we were adopting but an older child.
All these kids need loving parents.
Thankyou all.
 
http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=uk+adoption+register&meta=&rlz=1W1ADBF_en-GB&aq=6&oq=uk+adoptio :D you actually brought a tear to my eye...good luck :)
 
i don't think so but im in the us so im not sure i think that's a great idea your such a nice person and to pat no they wont the children in those home were usually treated bad and have been abused and are great-full for a better new life of love and no more neglect so its a great idea and i wouldn't think that would matter because you don't get your child taken away from a DUI so don't worry im sure they will let you but an younger child is probably the best the one who has gone through the most neglect they will be very grateful and will behave better most likely i hope this helps you are such a good person man the world needs more good people like you i almost cried
 
That should not hinder you from being able to adopt! you need to fill out the paper work and they will come do a home test to see how you live... you guys will be fine everyone makes mistakes in there life
 
I read as long as you are upfront and honest with them about your situation then you will be ok, just don't lie, because they will find out.

Have you thought about adopting from China, or any other country?. or even from the U.S.?.

There are a lot of websites out there. It is harder for us here in the U.S. to adopt domestically, and more expensive, so I started researching international adoptions.

As for foster care, you don't want the nightmares from that. Your little boy doesn't deserve that.

Everyone makes mistakes, but you are a mom now, so we must take a different path for our children sake.
 
First of all, dear lady, I would advise you to ignore the comments made by Pat! S/he is speaking like a total idiot.

I can't be more specific about "basic guidelines" as these differ from authority to authority.

My first advice would be to contact your local Social Services Department to make them aware of your intention, and ask if there's someone you could speak to, as they would, at some time, become involved in the process. It's not a five minute job either. It can be a long time coming.

Try looking at some of the documents from sites that I've been able to locate. They're from different areas of the country, but they'll give you some sort of idea of what's expected.

The loss of your driving licence for being over the limit should NOT impede the adoption process.

I would say that you will need to explain the "other reasons" why you feel fostering isn't an option ... and it really is best to be open with whomever will be carrying out the assessment on you.

I wish both yourself and your husband the very best of luck in adopting.

P.S. The page below, from adoptionmattersnw.org, lays things out in a specific order which you may find appealing, as is the one from adopting.adoption.com.
 
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