my husband and i have been arguing lately?

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Tasha

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I am at my wits end as what to do anymore. We used to have the regular arguments that lasted 5 mins or less. Now we have them that can go on all day. He normally brings up the past, something that is irrelevant anymore. We talk about the same stupid stuff in every argument and I am tired of it. He seems to not care about us not arguing.
We have kids and I am stressed out to the point that I just want to run away for a few days. He can never have a real conversation with me without arguing after 10 minutes.
What can we do to make our marriage healthier than it is now?
 
Seperate for a week this will jot his head as to what he needs and hopefully it is you and then start coming to a compromise. If its not you then you'll have your answer. Don't allow him to know your intention of coming back. If he calls you more time then you can count then thats a good sign.
 
You said he brings up things from the past and you always fight about the same stuff. The same stuff from the past?? If so, there is something there that is bothering him that he can let go of. It may have been festering for some time and until he finally comes out with it, what the real issue is, then you will continue to fight.
Even if you did something that is hard to forgive right now this is his fault because he's not laying it on the table in it's entirety and dealing with it.
If I were you, next fight I would say "I'm not a fu*king mind reader and I'm tired of this sh*t. You either come out with what ever is really bothering you or NEVER mention it again.
 
Sit down and talk to each other. How is the sex life? Maybe he can give you massages and you can make him happy in the bedroom.
 
Tell him to stop acting like a woman!! lol
Though i'm sure you contribute just as much as he does.

Ask him to sit down and just TALK. No fighting. Just express how you feel truthfully and TALK. Take everything as information ONLY, not as an attack toward you. Talk about what has been bothering you lately in you relationship and in your daily life. Maybe there is something bothering him and he doesn't feel comfortable telling you because he thinks you will over react.
Don't jump to conclusions about anything. Try to understand one another to become more comfortable with each other.

If you can communicate well then your problems will be solved. You got married because you felt strong together. You are both one person that need to share your issues with the other and help each other. Kind of like talking to yourself without actually being crazy.

Remember to TALK without judgment. AND NO NEGATVE THOUGHTS, try to understand before you determine negative and positive.

Hope this helps!
Good luck!

Remember to TALK and be EQUAL and let him know that this is only a DISCUSSION!!!
 
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