My friend is acting weird. What do I do now?

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jenny

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My friend and I got into an argument yesterday. But it started some time ago. I have a car, she doesn't but she likes to call whenever and expects me to give her a ride whenever and wherever she wants even if I am far away and it's around the corner where she needs to go. She also gets really mad when I don't do exactly as she says. I really liked her, but I started getting tired of that. And I admit that when I get angry I become loud. So yesterday we were talking on the phone ad she wanted me to bring somebody to her house in 5 minutes. I said that my apartment had a fire alarm and that I first had to take care of my computer in case the roof water came off. She got mad when I told her that it would probably take at least 20 minutes. And because she didn't want to believe me, I got frustrated and I started explaining to her with a higher tone. She hanged up on me. But she called later on because she needed me for something. Now this morning, she sends me a nasty email saying that I was a mean person and that I was egoistical. She also said other bad stuff. I was like WTF?!? Well, I replied to her email, and I told her that, just because we're friends, it doesn't mean that I have to do everything that she wants, and that I also have the right to say no sometimes. She would make me feel very guilty whenever I did not agree with her... Anyways, what should I do now? She has a history of mental disorder, and I was her best friend. She's leaving the country tomorrow for a month and a half. I am not sure what to do next. Any advice is very welcome.
 
SCREW HER! Seriously. You are not her servant to run when she says to run. I assume she wasn't paying you gas money either. You are being taken advantage of. A friend should never do that. She expects a lot from you. Seriously. She is just... RUDE! Her history of her mental disorder, I can see why they diagnosed her with that. Your better than that. You only live once. Do things for you and next time she wants you to pick someone up. Tell her your not her damn taxi cab! your better than that. She needs to have respect for you.
 
To me she doesn't sound like much of a friend. I would tell her that she needs to find some one else to serve her needs and not to call you unless she just wants to be friends and not for something she wants you to do for her.
 
I think you responded well to her email and her rudeness. She has been taking you for granted and using you. I know it's nice to help friends out when you have a car and she does'nt but she overstepped the mark by demanding you do runs for her needs at the click of her finger.
If I were you I would phone tonight or call over to her just to wish her a good holiday & that you felt pressurised to get to her in 5 minutes when you knew it would take 20. You were decent enough to be explaining that to her and she hung up on you.
Tell her you dont want her to go away thinking you two are on bad terms, if she barks at you, just wish her a good trip and walk away do not get caught in a new fight with her. She will feel guilty if she is a true friend and accept what happened was caused by her pressurising you and you getting stressed because you could'nt get to her as fast as she wanted. If she does'nt then walk away anyway and let her off.
 
You're probably not going to stay in touch with her after high school anyway. Just carry on as if she was any other person. Don't ignore her, but if she asks for a favor, respond the way you would to any other person.
 
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