a couple times a week is normal, some would even say its more than average. it could effect your relationship long term because you are not getting what you feel like you need, your desires arent being fufilled. if its ok for you to masturbate when he isnt in the mood, then you are fine, but if you are getting angry with him because he isnt having sex with you then there is a problem. i love sex and would love to have it every day and my bf doesnt want it everyday. i also masturbate frequently, but im ok with it.he exlpained to me one time that he doesn want to have sex all the time because he doesnt want to get bored of having sex, he dosnt want it to become too routine, so im ok with not having sex all the time because i care more about him than having sex alll the time. you need to think about if you are oging to be ok having sex as much as you are, because usually when you get married you have sex even less. is sex more important than your relationship or is your relationship worth more than getting constant sex?