My fiance left me because of my mood swings although he knows they are down to

Suki

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There is no way to tell whether he loves you or not-that is determined by a lot of stuff. I'll just tell you what sometimes happens to both men and women when their partners suffer from something, either that is a psychological or organic condition. Love is not really the reason behind their tendency to distance themselves. What seems to bother them is the abrupt change that the condition brings. That involves change in their partner's behavior, change in common activities, change in routine, and change in the relationship. Mood swings are one such condition. 1st mood swings are unpredictable changes of mood. You suffer because you're the one who experiences them-he suffers because when your mood changes he doesn't know how to handle it, and maybe also because he takes it personally-as if he somehow causes it or contributes to it. It is a situation that undoubtedly requires the intervention of a professional. On one hand you need to learn how to handle the mood swings, and on the other hand your fiancee needs to understand a few things about them- and then together you need to work on your relationship, which means making all the necessary adjustments. He left bacuse he is confused, he probably doesn't know what to do and how to behave around you. He needs help. Again, love is not an issue. He's just tired and confused.
Try and talk to him, and try to involve him in a discussion about seeking couples therapy or finding a solution together. What's happening is neither yours nor his fault, and you both need to understand that.
 
my boyfriend of 3 years left me because im bipolar,
and he couldnt handle it.
if he will leave you in the first place, its not love.
move on, you deserve better!!
this isnt about HIM its about YOU being happy.
stick to that
 
head injury. he still loves me? he tells me whenever we talk. but now he is picking fights. i THINK HE Just confused but what can I do
 
Go to a doctor and get a referral for therapy. You cannot "force" someone to be with you while you are unstable. You say he is confused but living with someone who has mood swings drives people away. I know from experience because I have them. You need to get yourself sorted first. The reason for the mood swings is immaterial here.
My husband left me for the same reason.
 
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