should I do? I am 28 years old. I come from a very abusive family. Few years ago I learned how serious and dangerous this situation was . I started reading about things on my own , listening to audio books. Finally I decieded to leave the home one night. Wrote a letter saying, it's been great, I love you guys, but I have to go . Few months before that , my dad came after me with a knife. They wanted to control me to the breath I was taking and always manipulating me , judging me, I went through 2-3 years of depression because of them and almost was killed because of my addictions..
Anyway, back to the present. Ok so recently I went back , to visit them , as I heard that my father was in the death bed. anyway, I met this girl there , except that i made a mistake and told my mother about it since my boundaries are pretty bad when it comes to my mom. She has violated my boundaries so many times that I gave into the temptation.
So She started campaigning against me to the girls mother.!!!
She told her that I am a bad seed. I have no job !! I have no money, I borrowed half of the money from my brother!! If she goes with me , she will have nobody!! , Basically she brainwashed her mom . Upon hearing this from her mom , she told me bye bye! just like that. Which I can't still fully digest , since she was "the-perfect" girl! and I didn't deserve this.. I truly didn't.. Sometimes i feel like crying..buy over the years i grown so much stronger on my own that I don't.
As you can see, my mother and I dn't talk anymore. I have cut " all cords with her" . I am done with her. I was already done with her medling in my life for all these years , almost killing me with her negativity and comparisons with other kids. Anyway, I want to be successful and famous, But I am very worried that , once, when I become successful , they will try to ruin my life my telling these lies to the people I love and I won't be able to say anything back , since they will say " oh they are your parents, they won't lie" Or " You can never get another parents , you know!"
I mean , how am I supposed to respond to the people who will talk like that??
What Should I do ? I am at a cross roads here. I am afraid of them , though I live 2,000 miles away, I am afraid they will and can destroy my name in an instant , in a retaliation to keep up their judgemental and negative ways of living.
What's the smart thing to do in this situation?
Anyway, back to the present. Ok so recently I went back , to visit them , as I heard that my father was in the death bed. anyway, I met this girl there , except that i made a mistake and told my mother about it since my boundaries are pretty bad when it comes to my mom. She has violated my boundaries so many times that I gave into the temptation.
So She started campaigning against me to the girls mother.!!!
She told her that I am a bad seed. I have no job !! I have no money, I borrowed half of the money from my brother!! If she goes with me , she will have nobody!! , Basically she brainwashed her mom . Upon hearing this from her mom , she told me bye bye! just like that. Which I can't still fully digest , since she was "the-perfect" girl! and I didn't deserve this.. I truly didn't.. Sometimes i feel like crying..buy over the years i grown so much stronger on my own that I don't.
As you can see, my mother and I dn't talk anymore. I have cut " all cords with her" . I am done with her. I was already done with her medling in my life for all these years , almost killing me with her negativity and comparisons with other kids. Anyway, I want to be successful and famous, But I am very worried that , once, when I become successful , they will try to ruin my life my telling these lies to the people I love and I won't be able to say anything back , since they will say " oh they are your parents, they won't lie" Or " You can never get another parents , you know!"
I mean , how am I supposed to respond to the people who will talk like that??
What Should I do ? I am at a cross roads here. I am afraid of them , though I live 2,000 miles away, I am afraid they will and can destroy my name in an instant , in a retaliation to keep up their judgemental and negative ways of living.
What's the smart thing to do in this situation?