my ex-sister in-law doesn't want to spend time with her kids anymore?

[Tracy V]

my ex-sister in law used to be a wonderful Mom. she was married to my brother for about 22 years, until she had an affair with her boss at work and divorced my brother. He is 46 with no kids and co-owns a resturant/bar. The kids are 11 and 14 years old. She fought for custody and got custody.

After having the kids move in with her and her boyfriend for about 6 months, she has decided that she does not want the kids to live with her and the boyfriend any longer.

She only wants them every other weekend, from 9:00 a.m. on Saturdays and wants my brother to come get them on Sundays at 6:00 p.m. She has also told my brother that she has to work in her boyfriend's resturant, as she is is best waitress so... she will be working Saturday nights and Sunday's, when she has the kids.

My brother is happy to take his children from this horrible enviroment but the kids are angry and hurt.

What is your read on this sudden change in personality?

 

[cmt0113]

She is just a bad mother. Because she has a boyfriend now she probably doesn't want to be chained down with kids. I think your brother should keep full custody of the children because to let their mother see them when she pretty much abandoned them will hurt the children even more. Yes they are angry and hurt but it will help them grow better. And having you and other aunts and family they won't feel so left out. This woman just pretty much threw her children away because of her new boyfriend. She probably wants to feel the way she did before she had children with your brother. With this man she has a lover, who owns a business and hes not tied down. It is a terrible thing but I think this would be the reason.