My ex is acting really weird. I can't tell what he wants!!?

[Lauren]

He broke up with me a month ago after we sort of had a rough few months. He just one night on the phone said I couldn't be in his life. We had a really really deep connection and we love each other a ton. Anyway, yeah I asked if there was anything we could do and he goes give him space and time.

It's been over a month. He wont talk to me. We work together so that sucks. He just sort of avoids me at work and such and I have been giving him space. If I try to talk to him it makes it worse. I have noticed this past week though he has been getting warmer towards me. I don't know what to do though? I mean like he left...I'm trying to move on the best I can. I think he got pressured by me pointing out some of the bad influences in his life. I heard he recently moved out of the place with his roommate (who was doing drugs) so he could get away from his roommate doing that stuff. I think he is just clearing stuff out. I don't know though, he said he didn't want me in his life though.

One of my guy friends came in the other night at sat in my section at work and my ex really started freaking out and went off flirting with other girls and sortof acted crazy. He like ran out of work too.

I don't know...like what does this mean?? What is he freaking doing? He wont talk to me. I have tried even just to get closure but no...break up and leave but I'm done with trying. I'm leaving him alone if he wants to talk to me and it seems to be working. I think he is starting to come around a bit more because I catch him looking at me more and actually saying stuff to me a bit. I know he is confused. Also, to tell you the truth but i know I was the love of his life and I know he misses me and loves me so much. He tells our friends he is all I think about and cant sleep or anything because he is thinking of me.

I have to move on if he isn't coming around. I can't wait for him. I love him a lot but he hurt me a lot when he just left.

 

[jazzy b]

I think your ex stills has feelings for you but he as so many thing in his life that he just needs time to think. i wouldn't give up on him just yet. no dude will get that jealous at work if he didn't care. if you are the love of his life then you 2 will end up together.

 

[amy]

Don't wait for him to come around. You might be waiting for a very long time for nothing to happen. He left you and didn't even have the courtesy to give you closure. Then he acts like a fool when another guy comes around. It sounds to me like he doesn't want to be with you and doesn't want anyone else to be with you either.

I hear what your friends are saying, but actions speak louder than words. His actions aren't saying much. He was thinking of himself when he broke up with you the way he did. Maybe has a good reason, but it's not likely. He did what he wanted/needed to do for him.

You need to do the same for yourself. If you choose to wait that's your choice, but you will always 'see' something that makes you feel like he will change. And, in the end if you waited for him you would be bitter and angry that he never came back.

Instead, move forward in your life. The two of you may come back around again, but in the mean time find other people to hang out with and spend time with. Take care of your heart. Be around people who treat you like you're valuable, and enjoy every minute of it.

 

[ksaun]

Sometimes the best thing you can do in a situation like this is look out for your own sanity and well being. I just got through a similar situation with a friend of mine. She said she didn't want me in her life either, so after trying for months to find out why and fix what ever was the problem I finally gave up. Now I totally ignore her when she is around. In my world she does not exist and I treat her as such. The funny thing is friends have told me she watches me all night, and seems to go out of her way to make her presence known to me.

My point is there comes a time when you have to say I have done everything I can to fix this situation, given every chance, waited for as long as i can wait, and I have to stop. I'm not making a difference, Im not solving the issue and the relationship is soo far gone that it could never be the same even if things were to be fixed now.

Trust me, do yourself a favor and just ignore him and everything he is doing and move on, you will be much happier that all the drama is over and you can move on with your life.

BTW I would also tell your friends you don;t want to hear anything about him or what he is doing, saying, etc. Thats what I told my friends and I feel much better.