My dad is getting out of jail..?

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My father has been in jail ever since I was a baby(1) and Now I'm 14 and he is coming home from jail on Friday. I am not sure if I am ready for him to come home. He has been away all my life. He missed everything, Birthdays, Christmases, Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, kindergarden graduation, my 8th grade prom and graduation, EVERYTHING! His family is always telling my sister and me ." Wait until your father gets home", " When your father gets home that won't be happening", " You gotta cook for him" blah, blah, blah. It's really annoying.They think just because he wasnt here that we don't know how to do anything. HELLO? Our mother taught us and raised us! Why do we have to cater to his every needs? Why can't he cater to us? Everyone is so excited but I am not. I actually do not like his family. All they do is talk about people. They don't even like my mother. They are so annoying! Every little thing they ran and told him. How can I deal with this?
 
i am so sorry. what was your dad in for? u don't have to cater to him but if your mom has waited for him something must be good about him. i say give him a chance u don't have to be his best friend but he is your dad so at least get to know him and if u like him u do if u don't then its ok. forget his family they were the same way towards my mom and its because he is their own flesh u know. just try. need any more advice i am at [email protected]
 
Thats a decision you have to make.You don't have to cater to his needs. He hasn't been there for 14 years. Talk to your dad see if you guys can get on that strong level mentally and go from . Not yet thow, hes just getting out of jail give him his space or surround with love and care.
 
What does your mother think of all this? Is she also happy that your dad is coming home? What was he in prison for? It must have been pretty serious to be in prison that long.
All I can say is that your mother is the head of the family at this point. Your dad abandoned you.
And if he abuses anybody in your family, or engages in illegal behavior that you know about, or is a bad example for the children, do not ignore it. If your mother does nothing about it, tell your school counselor or some other adult you can trust, or even the police directly.
I am sad that you are in this situation.
Most important of all, don't allow this to ruin your future. Study well in school, make good friends who are good people; be an honest and responsible person. When your are 18, you can start to control your own life. Don't repeat the bad things of the past.
 
You are just scared because there is a threat of something new. Some things may change but a lot will not. He needs to learn to live with you as much as you him. Just let him know this is how things have been working and see if he is ready to work with you before you hate his coming. He might make things better or not but talk to him and see if all this can work out nicely. I am sure he knows how his family is and how much the like or do not like his wife.

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Well, first of all, you have no right to feel comfortable about your father's arrival. It's his responsibility to build a relationship with his children because is not yours or your sister's fault that he ended up with 14 years or 13 years in jail. On top of that, his family aka your family too, has no right to tell you what to do for your father on his arrival. Let's just say right now he's your father because he helped ur mother conceive u but in other hands he has a lot to do before he earns the father respect. I really wish you the best and also dontbe closed minded. Remember that he didn't vanish and abanded you but was in jail, give him a chance and good luck.
 
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