razzledazzleem
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I hated for being nice/friendly? I started a job about 5 months ago and it seems that I have yet to win the respect of most of my co-workers. People say that being "liked" (in the workplace) is never as important as winning the "respect" of your co-workers. I just go into work with a cheerful disposition, always willing to help out, switch schedules with people if they need me to. My whole life I've always been friendly so I always smile and say hi to everyone upon arriving. I'm basically just being me, but people seem to take advantage of my kindness and treat it as a weakness...For instance, today my supervisor asked me if I was going to use my gift card to order pizza for everyone, and I said of course, why not, since I love to share. Then, apparently when the assistant manager came in...he told her, "Hey Kelly, I ordered pizza for everyone today."
So I just have a bit of trouble setting boundaries for both the store's customers and my co-workers because I want to please everyone. But I feel like I'm just harboring a lot of negativity because I don't feel they deserve my kindness - but I for whatever reason can't express the fact that I hate them for exploiting my kindness, lol...Whether this is insecurity or lack of self-esteem I'm not sure, but I was wondering what I should do?
If they continue to mock me and just talk about how nice I am..that I let people walk all over me..."Why did you let [Chris] take your customer],' etc...are they just trying to anger me because they know that no one can be that nice? Are people who are constantly just even-tempered annoying to some people...I really don't understand why all my co-workers are so concerned about me being so gullible, innocent, pushover...I'm really not. I juts don't get upset and I hold stuff in without lashing out like they do. So should I keep 'killing them with kindness' and not letting them get to me? Or will that make them even mess with me more?
What would you recommend...becoming more "thug" and not so "happy/nice" all the time? Will that get them off my back cuz I'm really tired of being disrespected! I'm just being nice...lol
P.S. - This happens with girls too. I'm a perfect gentleman but I've been single for 6 months because girls take my kindness as a sign of weakness...But I can't be anyone I'm not...I can't turn into a hardcore dude like Mark Whalberg when I'm just a softie who wouldn't hurt a fly or [treat a girl like trash] like many "players" do these days...
Thoughts?
So I just have a bit of trouble setting boundaries for both the store's customers and my co-workers because I want to please everyone. But I feel like I'm just harboring a lot of negativity because I don't feel they deserve my kindness - but I for whatever reason can't express the fact that I hate them for exploiting my kindness, lol...Whether this is insecurity or lack of self-esteem I'm not sure, but I was wondering what I should do?
If they continue to mock me and just talk about how nice I am..that I let people walk all over me..."Why did you let [Chris] take your customer],' etc...are they just trying to anger me because they know that no one can be that nice? Are people who are constantly just even-tempered annoying to some people...I really don't understand why all my co-workers are so concerned about me being so gullible, innocent, pushover...I'm really not. I juts don't get upset and I hold stuff in without lashing out like they do. So should I keep 'killing them with kindness' and not letting them get to me? Or will that make them even mess with me more?
What would you recommend...becoming more "thug" and not so "happy/nice" all the time? Will that get them off my back cuz I'm really tired of being disrespected! I'm just being nice...lol
P.S. - This happens with girls too. I'm a perfect gentleman but I've been single for 6 months because girls take my kindness as a sign of weakness...But I can't be anyone I'm not...I can't turn into a hardcore dude like Mark Whalberg when I'm just a softie who wouldn't hurt a fly or [treat a girl like trash] like many "players" do these days...
Thoughts?