My boyfriend told me I needed to learn how to be as beautiful as my friends,

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with books or advice. What to do? He says i don't need to, that my "style" is good if i want to be warm, if i don't care how i look, and if i have no time, but that its too bad i'm not naturally attractive without trying, since attractive is what i want to be. At first he said no one is, but when I told him of my attractive girlfriend who so many men have liked that he has met, he said she's like a genius who is just born good at something. i thought it was just my style too, but later he said that i didn't have a naturally pretty face, and that i should wear makeup, and he was acting like i had no right to complain about being unattractive if i didnt even bother with makeup. Despite all of this bitterness, he assured me that he liked me for my personality and that he loved me (ugly as i am), even though that makes him "weird" so he says. Because i was calling myself ugly, he was calling me ugly, and telling me to "forgive myself for being ugly." that made me cry so much that he got angry and hung up on me because i couldnt "forgive myself". before anyone says that believing im pretty will make me pretty, the aforementioned friend is as insecure as i am abt the way she looks. He is kind and compassionate otherwise, so I dont understand why he was so cruel. I'm 23, he's 24. This is both of our first relationship.