My boyfriend requires an ego boost constantly!?

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megan meier

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He's a football player so he's used to getting a lot of attention from girls... Especially since he's one at a well known university. I am the first girl he's ever been serious with and I know he loves me. However, he's always SO concerned with what everyone thinks (especially girls) I've caught him a few times even texting his exes. Its a total ego boost and I know that everyone does it every now and then but how am I supposed to know that won't turn into something more? I am not the type to get so paranoid but he has done some questionable stuff in the past and I just am watching my back and now I'm insecure :(
 
Your definition of ego boost is unclear.So he is a football player who is concerned about his image and even texts his exes;but he also loves you and you are his first serious gal so if it was an ego thing,he would be seeking it from you and asking for validation from you.I suspect that in spite of your protestation that you are not paranoid,you are in fact paranoid especially about whatever,questionable things he has done in the past (although you did not say what they are).I think you are suspicious of your guys fidelity and you are insecure about his contacts with his exes because you do not trust him.I will suggest that you have a talk with your boyfriend and ask him all the questions you have on your mind as well as let him know which actions of his bother you.His answers will help you decide what to do next and if you should continue to watch your back and why.That is your only option as I see it.
 
The thing about me is that I like to be called-out on things. That's what people who really care about you do. You should tell him exactly what you told all of us. He might get angry at first, but if he wants to be a real man, he will realize that it is really the best thing for him. He should learn how to not rely on others to feel good about himself.

But I'm especially concerned about how his attitude is affecting you. If my girlfriend told me I was making her insecure, I would take that very seriously. It's a boyfriend's number one priority to make his girlfriend feel special. If he can't do that for you, he's not good enough for you. Got that?!
 
Could it be that all the attention he has gotten in the past has given him a sort of addiction to praise? I feel good when I'm complimented, and it seems natural that you could get hooked on that high. Its like a drug, it makes you feel good, and if you do it enough, you'll want more and more. If this is the case, going too long without being complimented will cause him to go through withdrawls. I don't know if this is the case with him, but its worth thinking about.
 
Could it be that all the attention he has gotten in the past has given him a sort of addiction to praise? I feel good when I'm complimented, and it seems natural that you could get hooked on that high. Its like a drug, it makes you feel good, and if you do it enough, you'll want more and more. If this is the case, going too long without being complimented will cause him to go through withdrawls. I don't know if this is the case with him, but its worth thinking about.
 
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