My boyfriend is in jail because of me. How do I show the court that this is a

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the law is there to protect you. the guy is seriously out there if he's willing to stalk and harass you. who is to say to what extremes he would have gone to had he not been apprehended?

you could speak with the district attorney's office. but you should probably think about this. i mean what will he do the next time?
 
misunderstanding? My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. During a rough time for us about two months ago he was calling my job a lot and trying to get me fired. My boss advised me to call the police and, in fear of losing a job I love, I followed his advice. When the police came to interview me I made the mistake of telling them EVERYTHING that had been going on. (His calling and texting me nonstop and him walking into my mom's house where I live without knocking, none of which I was at all concerned about) Being pretty ignorant of the way the system works, my mom had pressed charges against him for trespassing, which turns out to be a class 5 felony. So now he is in jail facing two harassment charges, which I have no say in because it is a domestic issue and the state presses charges whether I want to or not, and the felony trespassing. A lot of jail time for a guy who has never been in trouble. My mom wants to drop the charge because she doesn't feel like he deserves all that (she is just as clueless as I am about these things and didn't think it would be so serious.) The police said that there is nothing they could do about him calling my job because that is a civil matter, which was the only reason why I called. I can't help feeling sort of betrayed by the system for so harshly misunderstanding the situation. I am going to his hearing next month and I am struggling with what to say to make this right. I really love this guy and am having a very hard time dealing with the guilt of being so naiive about all of this and potentially ruining his future. What a horrible thing to have a felony on your record for something so silly. If anybody has any advice I could really, really use it... Thank you!
 
I think you need to take off those rose coloured glasses that you are wearing and remind yourself of WHY you were going through a rough time... and then STOP feeling guilty...

he was behaving badly.... he earnt his imprisonment... stop allowing him to throw you on a guilt trip... find yourself a new guy ... this one has issues.
 
I think you need to take off those rose coloured glasses that you are wearing and remind yourself of WHY you were going through a rough time... and then STOP feeling guilty...

he was behaving badly.... he earnt his imprisonment... stop allowing him to throw you on a guilt trip... find yourself a new guy ... this one has issues.
 
Calling your job and trying to get you fired is not a good thing. Acting out of control is a serious thing. How would he react if you broke up with him? Sometimes it is better to admit you love someone and walk away anyway than to end up in an abusive relationship.

All you can do is testify if called. With luck the prosecutor will cut a decent plea bargain. But if your BF has no prior arrests and acts decent and sorry for what he did, the judge may do a diversion- your bf does anger management class, maybe community service too, stays out of trouble for 12 months and then applies for his conviction to be expunged (erased). The judge reviews the case and that all the conditions have been met and his record is clean.
 
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