My boyfriend has joined the army... I need advice.?

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We've been together a really long time, and he has wanted to go into the army since last September, and I was okay with it. However, this week he went to selection, and passed with a B. Which is a high grade, and I am really happy for him, but I cant help but thinking he is going to get blown up, or whatever! I know it's ridiculous, but all the horror news stories you read... It's terrifying. (We live in the UK btw). He is going for training in April... Should I be happy for him and let him go or am I in the right to think he will more than likely die? Can anyone give me reassurance or advice?

PS his family are really happy for him, and his friends to & I just feel really bad that I cant be happy properly. I know a lot of it is just not wanting him to leave me all that time... Please help?
:') thanks alot everyone. & he is going in the REME.
 
the best thing for you to do is just support him. Worrying that he's going to be blown up is only going to make things worse, and he's going to be trained to avoid things like that happening.
 
My first word of advice would be to stop watching the news. They usually make it seem worse then it really is. My husband is a Marine and has been in for over 2 years now. He has been to Iraq and is going to Afghanistan soon. I am worried but not very much. He will be trained for the situation he is put in and as long as he stays alert he should be fine. Of course I am not going to lie there are sometimes sad circumstances but you can't dwell on them. If he joins the army and doesn't feel you support it or that you are scared it will only make him have his mind else where. If he gets sent over seas on a deployment you want to stay possitive and write letters frequently. If he knows how scared you are then it will make him feel worse while he's over there.

I hope that helps you at all if you have any other questions feel free to ask.
 
Be supportive, no matter how hard things are for you to see him join the army, but honestly, chances of him dying aren't too high depending on what he specializes in. Infantry is probably the highest at risk but there are so many other fields he could go into. He's really going to need you to be there for him when he's at trainings because it's hard for him to be away from you too. You just got to stay strong and think positively. Good luck!
 
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