Dr.Vampire
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Im gay, 21, been dating him for 2 years. Started out well, fizzled out (natural) and then stopped. If I bring it up he fights with me - Granted I brought it up too much as it is an issue for me (I think sex is an important part of a relationship, especially at our age.)
When I do get him to answer without exploding, he usually just says (in a very aggressive way) that I have a hand or I must find it somewhere else. He said he just stopped wanting sex and has no reason.
Today I asked what I must do and got the same response, so I asked what he would do if i cheated and he said I must do what I have to as long as I never speak about it again.
In my mind, talking is what solves things? Avoiding it leaves nothing solved and me feeling neglected.
I dont want to lose him, I love him, BUT I do have sexual needs as well. Sometimes I feel like he isnt attracted anymore, which is fine but then he must leave me. I dont know what to do. It seems silly to leave someone over sex.
We have had sex probably 4 -5 times in the last 6 months or so? Most of the time I had to beg. He has never been an initiator. Probably once or twice, otherwise I initiate but whenever I do now I just get turned down. Too tired, dont feel like it, too busy etc...
What should I do?
When I do get him to answer without exploding, he usually just says (in a very aggressive way) that I have a hand or I must find it somewhere else. He said he just stopped wanting sex and has no reason.
Today I asked what I must do and got the same response, so I asked what he would do if i cheated and he said I must do what I have to as long as I never speak about it again.
In my mind, talking is what solves things? Avoiding it leaves nothing solved and me feeling neglected.
I dont want to lose him, I love him, BUT I do have sexual needs as well. Sometimes I feel like he isnt attracted anymore, which is fine but then he must leave me. I dont know what to do. It seems silly to leave someone over sex.
We have had sex probably 4 -5 times in the last 6 months or so? Most of the time I had to beg. He has never been an initiator. Probably once or twice, otherwise I initiate but whenever I do now I just get turned down. Too tired, dont feel like it, too busy etc...
What should I do?