My boyfriend and I are both in our twenties and have been dating for quite a while, we also live together. At first when we started having sex it would be every other day and at appropriate times.
But the thing is, is that he NEVER initiates sex. I asked him why, out of curiosity, and he said that it's a respect thing and that he respects my personal space. Sure I don't mind that if that's the case, I also thanked him and that he doesn't have to all the time and that it would be cool once in a while if he'd initiate so it would make me feel wanted sometimes. And he said that woulnd't be a problem.
So it's been a few months and he still hasn't initiated once. Not to mention his lack of sex drive lately. I stilll initiate but he would tell me that he's too tired or he isn't in the mood enough to do anything. He knows that sex is meaningful to me when it's with him, but he said that it didn't mean anything to him, but then changed his mind and said that it does but he can't put it into words...
I don't think there is nothing wrong with me physically ans he says hes not bored of me. And he does enjoy spending his time with me and makes plans for us to do things all the time.
I'm just confused. Do any of you have at least an Idea on what could be going on? Or have any suggestions?
I know he isn't cheating on me. And I am his FIRST girlfriend, if that helps. And he's not gay.
Bah, I'm not going to dump him over something like this.
He's NOT gay.
I also think that it could be where his life is heading? He dropped out of college after he was in an auto accident and he's stuck working at a grocery store, I work there too, and he definately hates it. He also says that he's at his peak in life and his body is going downhill from here.
For him I think its personal reasons why he hasn't been so motivated lately.
And also to he admits that he has a problem with responsibility and turned down a management promotion twice.
No he is actually very fit and muscular and looks A LOT like hugh jackman in wolverine
No, i haven't let myself go. I've been tdealing with depression for a long time, but I have lost a lot of weight in the last few months. Id actually hoped that me losing more weight would actually want him to initiate more, but that didn't work.
Yeah I 've been trying to be more supportive and have put my emotional problems aside to help him out. If i get home early i would have dinner ready for him ect ect. and try to make him laugh and put him in a happier mood. Which works most of the time.
But the thing is, is that he NEVER initiates sex. I asked him why, out of curiosity, and he said that it's a respect thing and that he respects my personal space. Sure I don't mind that if that's the case, I also thanked him and that he doesn't have to all the time and that it would be cool once in a while if he'd initiate so it would make me feel wanted sometimes. And he said that woulnd't be a problem.
So it's been a few months and he still hasn't initiated once. Not to mention his lack of sex drive lately. I stilll initiate but he would tell me that he's too tired or he isn't in the mood enough to do anything. He knows that sex is meaningful to me when it's with him, but he said that it didn't mean anything to him, but then changed his mind and said that it does but he can't put it into words...
I don't think there is nothing wrong with me physically ans he says hes not bored of me. And he does enjoy spending his time with me and makes plans for us to do things all the time.
I'm just confused. Do any of you have at least an Idea on what could be going on? Or have any suggestions?
I know he isn't cheating on me. And I am his FIRST girlfriend, if that helps. And he's not gay.
Bah, I'm not going to dump him over something like this.
He's NOT gay.
I also think that it could be where his life is heading? He dropped out of college after he was in an auto accident and he's stuck working at a grocery store, I work there too, and he definately hates it. He also says that he's at his peak in life and his body is going downhill from here.
For him I think its personal reasons why he hasn't been so motivated lately.
And also to he admits that he has a problem with responsibility and turned down a management promotion twice.
No he is actually very fit and muscular and looks A LOT like hugh jackman in wolverine
No, i haven't let myself go. I've been tdealing with depression for a long time, but I have lost a lot of weight in the last few months. Id actually hoped that me losing more weight would actually want him to initiate more, but that didn't work.
Yeah I 've been trying to be more supportive and have put my emotional problems aside to help him out. If i get home early i would have dinner ready for him ect ect. and try to make him laugh and put him in a happier mood. Which works most of the time.