My boyfriend blames me for everything when we argue.?

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starysky

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Me and my bf are 25 and we have been dating now for almost 4 months. He has all the qualities that i have been looking for and i felt so happy and blessed to find him. but there are issues that im not sure if i should continue to ignore. we have been arguing a lot lately, and recently broke up twice.

the problem is...he blames me for ALL of our problems. everytime we get in a fight, he tells me that i need to sit and think about how i couldve changed things and i need to apologize. he never thinks that he does anything wrong. i admit, MOST of the time it is me who starts fights and there are things i could do different. but there are times that i truely feel as though HE started it and he does things wrong. but he never sees it. its ALWAYS my fought and im the one that needs to "change" since he "isnt going to change for anyone". i dont know what to do. my sister says that all guys are like this...blaming the girls for everything and never admitted when they are wrong. is this true? does anyone have any advice?
 
"everytime we get in a fight, he tells me that i need to sit and think about how i couldve changed things and i need to apologize"




You know, that's what Supernanny Jo Frost asks of toddlers after they are finished with "time out." LOL!

This guy sounds like a real douche to me, and I think you need to second-guess how "perfect" Mr. Perfect really is. This is subtle verbal/emotional abuse. And he is clearly a manipulator.

Oh yeah.... and he treats you like a child.

The only thing I can forsee is it only escalating to deeper verbal abuse. Right now it's very subtle. But before you know it, if you marry, in five years he'll be pretty much owning you. And Lord knows how he'd treat future children.

There's a big maturity problem when someone is so prideful they can't admit any wrongdoing. Normally I'd say to you "stick up for yourself and let him know what's acceptable and what's not" and then give him the opportunity to treat you right.

But seriously... any man who would actually attempt to literally put his girlfriend in a "time out" situation? And say to her, "sit and think about what you've done and then apologize"?

(!?!)

*lmao*..... He has no real respect for you (or for women in general, I would suspect).
Kick him to the curb.
 
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