My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 4 years. I love him, but...

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Hazel

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...lately we've been arguing...? everyday and it's really starting to frustrate me. Everytime I see him, I feel very dissapointed. We've been through a lot these past couple of months and it's starting to take a toll on both of us. It started the day we decided to move in together. Everything was GREAT until he started showing me that he didnt really care too much about me. While we lived together, he didnt have a job and I did. To make a long story short, I payed for everything! Bills, rent, groceries, gas, his weed expenses. I felt so betrayed, dissapointed, angry, depressed. Dont get me wrong, he's a good guy, but he didnt help me when I really needed him. Now, everytime i see him I feel dissapointed. And thats the reason why we argue so much. I've talked to him about it but he just blows me off and makes excuses. It pisses me off and I dont understand why he cant see things the way I see things. After all this time, he is still the same person from months ago. Im really tired of arguing. I dont know what to do. I need help. I love him and I dont want to give up. What do I do? PLEASE help me.
Everyone says "break up".I have no where to go. I dont have parents. I cant break up with him because its too hard right now. Are there any other options.
 
dump the gddam pothead. any lazy fdat slob who makes his girl pay for his ILLEGAL, STUPID habits deserves to be tossed out on his a$$. go get yourself a REAL man
 
Keep your question open for awhile because I want to see what people have to say about it. I am in a very very similar situation and we're married only my situation is a LOT more complex and it's him who feels different not me. So ya. Good luck I hope you get some answers.
 
Well I don't know if he ever did that for you, as in took care of you, but most of the time it goes back and forth. Someone is usually down when the other is up. Tell him exactly how you feel and that you can't blow it off anymore because it's taking a real toll on you and describe how. You will go through harder times sometimes and it's in those times you see if you can depend on someone to step up. Give him the opportunity to step up by talking to him about your issues and if he does nothing then bail. If there isn't a reason why he shouldn't have a job then tell him that he needs to find one.
 
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