suggestions? My boyfriend and I have been in a solid relationship for 5 1/2 years now. I am 22, and he is 21. We love each other very much, and we are best friends. We love to be around each other all the time; it just feels right.
About 2 years ago, my boyfriend's father died in a car accident. It was very tragic and a VERY stressful part in our relationship. Ever since his father's death he is a different person. He used to be extremely outgoing, went with the flow, extremely social; to sum it up, he literally was the person to light up a crowded room. He was super romantic, and omg the only way to describe it is that he was the closest to a perfect guy!
Ever since his father's death, I've seen a big change in him over the past two years. When his dad died, I put my self/feeling/emotions aside and I focused on him; he was the important one at that time because it was a hard thing he went through.
Now, he is different, but that doesn't mean I love him any less. He is more "touchy" and snaps back, and takes things too personal, and has a more negative attitude. Lately, I swear, ALL WE DO IS FIGHT. No joke. Even when we are not physically together, its an argument over the phone, a mean text, its just rediculous.
Things will be going fabulous one minute, and the next- total misery.
Ive really talked to him about it and it is a mixture of things. His family situation, the legal situation between the insurance companies, our relationship, work, school; its honestly EVERYTHING that gets to him.
He doesn't have a male figure in his life who can guide him, so I suggested he make a few appointments for the college counselor. He made an appointment one time when he had to describe his situation to the college, and WOW, he was almost the old boyfriend I used to know, for a little bit.
My question is, what else can I do guys/ladies? I am there for him, but its getting to the point where he has so much negativity in his life, we just can't get anywhere. We both really do honestly and truely love each other and he has always said he can't wait to marry, buy a home, have children.
But, this stuff isn't going to be joyfull unless he takes control of the negativity and problems in his life.
How else can I support him? What can I do to help tone down the tension and arguments? Any thoughful information and/or comments would really be appreciated! I am at my breaking point, and I do not want this relationship to go sour.
About 2 years ago, my boyfriend's father died in a car accident. It was very tragic and a VERY stressful part in our relationship. Ever since his father's death he is a different person. He used to be extremely outgoing, went with the flow, extremely social; to sum it up, he literally was the person to light up a crowded room. He was super romantic, and omg the only way to describe it is that he was the closest to a perfect guy!
Ever since his father's death, I've seen a big change in him over the past two years. When his dad died, I put my self/feeling/emotions aside and I focused on him; he was the important one at that time because it was a hard thing he went through.
Now, he is different, but that doesn't mean I love him any less. He is more "touchy" and snaps back, and takes things too personal, and has a more negative attitude. Lately, I swear, ALL WE DO IS FIGHT. No joke. Even when we are not physically together, its an argument over the phone, a mean text, its just rediculous.
Things will be going fabulous one minute, and the next- total misery.
Ive really talked to him about it and it is a mixture of things. His family situation, the legal situation between the insurance companies, our relationship, work, school; its honestly EVERYTHING that gets to him.
He doesn't have a male figure in his life who can guide him, so I suggested he make a few appointments for the college counselor. He made an appointment one time when he had to describe his situation to the college, and WOW, he was almost the old boyfriend I used to know, for a little bit.
My question is, what else can I do guys/ladies? I am there for him, but its getting to the point where he has so much negativity in his life, we just can't get anywhere. We both really do honestly and truely love each other and he has always said he can't wait to marry, buy a home, have children.
But, this stuff isn't going to be joyfull unless he takes control of the negativity and problems in his life.
How else can I support him? What can I do to help tone down the tension and arguments? Any thoughful information and/or comments would really be appreciated! I am at my breaking point, and I do not want this relationship to go sour.