My bf gave his virginity to a girl he now met. he cries and says he`s sry nd it was a mistake.Shld i stay? ?

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We`ve been together for 3 years.We were engaged and we planning on getting married next year. Both of us were virgins. I went away for vacation last summer and i made a guy "go down" on me. I confessed to him and he had sex. I believe he did it before i confessed. He says he`s sorry and that he`ll never do it again and he wants me to take him back. Should I leave or stay? I really love him but i`m really hurting. He had sex with her twice he said and that it never meant anything. He also said he regret it and he stopped the second time. I`m so confused please give me sum advice! thanks!
 
My advice is to let go of him. As much as it hurts, you deserve someone who is honest, and if he really cared about you, he wouldn't have had sex with this other girl.
 
if youre both cheating while your engaged or planning on marriage, thats not a very good start///i say once a cheat, always a cheat, and hes already done it twice? kick em to the curb and you should be loyal to the one youre with also
 
What's the difference in what you did and what he did........?.......the amount?....because I don't see how letting someone go "down" on you and him having sex is any different. The only difference is penetration. You both cheated, you both feel bad. I don't think anyone should have an upper hand in this, I don't think the timing means anything. I think you both should talk about why you did what you did and come to an agreement on weather you should stay together or not. It seems like you are committing yourselves to each other but you want freedom to be with others. I would talk and take a break and see how you both feel then.
 
well he might of had sex as revenge for what you did with another guy but if you planning on marrying each other and i guess waiting to have sex and both loose you V together then he has completely fucked up because he has now took away a special thing that you both were going to experience together as a loving couple. It depends what your morals are really, do you love this guy enough to forget and forgive him for sleeping with another and spending his first time with another girl who he hadnt spent 3 years with and was going to marry then do it, if it was me id chuck him, if hes done it before hes likely to do it again AND you now know where his morals lie. Its worse than cheating hunni, hes an arse. I just read what you said about him saying, it never meant anything, thats even worse, he risked ruining it with you for something that he didnt even mean (WANT) to do, he didnt love her, he loved you and SHOULD never of done what he did. Bin him!
 
i would leave him, u dont have to deal wit him, if u've always had a good relationship with him n still he wants to be with you (i mean cuz yall r engaged), i think all u have to do is talk with him. people make mistakes. him having sex with her twice sounds crazy.but feelings are different. guys have sex with alot gurls n dont care about them. u did a similar mistake so u can't be mad at him all the way. u should b able to see where he's coming from. he hurted u, n to me u should make him feel bad about what he did. so i think u shouldn't take him back too easy.
 
If he did it once or twice he is hooked and will continue to have sex. Just for the sake of having sex to satisfy his urge. Now its up to you to decide what needs to be done. My advice is to get over him by getting under the spell of a new boyfriend.
 
I would leave him! Neither of you or your relationship are ready for marriage. Just move on.
 
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