my best friend had sex, & thinks my reaction was uncalled for?

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well my best friend had sex yesterday. We're ONLY 14. So i told her that was a really dumb decision. & she did it with a guy she's only known for 2 weeks. She has had sex once before, & her mom found out, & the whole school. So it was really hard on her, & her & her mom had a hard time getting along. Her mom didn't trust her at all. Everyone at school labeled her the school slut, & she went through A LOT. so now, a couple months later, her reputation is back to normal, Her & her mom are getting along great & she had everything going for her. but then yesterday she went & had sex. So that's when i told her it was a dumb decision, & telling her that everything was finally getting back to normal, & then she just blew it. & i told her she was screwing up everything she just regained. & that this guy she BARELY knows is probaly going to tell people about it. & that now she would have to go into high school with that baggage. then she got mad at me and said i was being a b*tch. saying that i'm not even understanding her. & that i'm wrong. But honestly, i only said those things because i care about her. Now, things are kind of rocky between us. So do you think i overreacted? that i was wrong to say that to her, & if so, should i apologize?
 
No, that was really smart of you. Of course your reaction will hit her hard, but then she will think about it and know you are right. And when she does realize you are right, she will be really upset. I don't think you should apologize, I think you should just continue to be a friend to her. It seems that she will need it. Try to be a positive influence on her so it doesn't happen again.
 
well u werent wrong in ur intentions, some ppl dnt like to hear the truth, maybe if u were to have said i differently, but then again its here life, if she wants to ruin it, let it be her problem, u shouldnt have to apologize, u were just being a caring friend, if she doesnt understand that, then just leave it
 
you didn't over react. she's probably doing it to get attention or something.

I wouldn't apologize because she would of made me angry, but the RIGHT thing to do would to be like "I'm sorry I upsetting you, but it's because I care."
 
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