Ok so we've been best friends for about 3 years. We both pretty much started talking because I had drama with "friends" that talked about me behind my back but were two-faced. Before that I had 2 best friends who backstabbed me because their crushes liked me. So I had already gone through about 4 best friends. She had similar drama except she stole her other "best friend"'s boyfriend.
Anyways, shes an athlete. I'm not. She's short and kinda buff-looking, but toned and skinny. I'm tall, pale, dark hair, skinny, but with hips. Shes not ugly at all, and I know I'm not either (not trying to sound conceited). We hit it off--- went shopping together, sleepovers, movies...all that good high school best friend stuff. Told eachother our deepest darkest secrets and everything. (Keep in mind that when we became best friends in '09, I had also met my boyfriend around the same time). I balanced my boyfriend and her perfectly, since my bf was in College already. Then she got a boyfriend, who lasted about 5 months. Through those 5 months, she would ditch me and everything would always be about him. She'd start with little stabs about how they got to go to all these places (My mom's very strict, so I was limited as to where I could go with my boyfriend, she had a 19 yr old sister with a baby and her mom let her do whatever she wanted.) She'd sleep at her bfs house and stuff, and she'd rub it in. After they broke up, she cried on my shoulder and I was there for her, teaching her and helping her get over him, to not get caught up so easily, etc. Then, she was all super attached to me. I didnt mind, I genuinely cared for her. But she was desperate for a boyfriend because she felt "lonely" and I wasn't enough. She needed a boyfriend to feel happy. So she met another guy and they got together, and pushed me away a little.
I confronted her about it, but she "didnt mean it". Also, shed say how im flabby and my arms sag and I need to work out, my belly stick out, not like hers because shes an athlete. Ok, im 5"9 and a half, have got many modeling offers, I have hips, but I'm a size 5 with a tiny waist. I was nowhere near flabby, fat, or whatever she said, and I knew it. She brought my confidence down. Then shed compare boyfriends and said how hers was better than mine. She started comparing and comparing and I just got tired of it so Again, I confronted her about it. She stopped for a while. Then it started again. I got a car, so she had to get a car. I got into some of the best schools in Cali but I couldn't afford them so I had to go to a community college (this is close to graduation btw.) She didnt have 5 dlrs in her wallet to put gas in her car, she'd ask me for rides to school and back. She lived two cities away from me, so I had to drive to school and beyond, back to school, and back to my house, and she never gave me a dime. She got onto a fancy University that requires her to pay $23000 a year and shed say how "im not going to some crappy community college where all the stupid poor people go" with me being right next to her. So, she hurt my feelings time and time again, ad I'd always confront her because she claimed to be the "approachee, not the approacher".
So we graduated. She cried on my shoulder, how were gonna be bffs forever and al this other crap. Then, nothing. Not one text or call. She texted me 2 months later asking where I got my hair done. She drove 2 cities away NEXT to my house to the hair place and didnt say hi. She took advantage of everything I showed her and took all my secrets and used them to her advantage. I didnt contact her either because I want her to approach me for once. But she never did, and I feel horrible. Is i time to let go? Should I delete her from facebook? Should I talk to her? Is she a true friend? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!
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p.s if people are going to be mean and disrespectful, don't comment please.
Anyways, shes an athlete. I'm not. She's short and kinda buff-looking, but toned and skinny. I'm tall, pale, dark hair, skinny, but with hips. Shes not ugly at all, and I know I'm not either (not trying to sound conceited). We hit it off--- went shopping together, sleepovers, movies...all that good high school best friend stuff. Told eachother our deepest darkest secrets and everything. (Keep in mind that when we became best friends in '09, I had also met my boyfriend around the same time). I balanced my boyfriend and her perfectly, since my bf was in College already. Then she got a boyfriend, who lasted about 5 months. Through those 5 months, she would ditch me and everything would always be about him. She'd start with little stabs about how they got to go to all these places (My mom's very strict, so I was limited as to where I could go with my boyfriend, she had a 19 yr old sister with a baby and her mom let her do whatever she wanted.) She'd sleep at her bfs house and stuff, and she'd rub it in. After they broke up, she cried on my shoulder and I was there for her, teaching her and helping her get over him, to not get caught up so easily, etc. Then, she was all super attached to me. I didnt mind, I genuinely cared for her. But she was desperate for a boyfriend because she felt "lonely" and I wasn't enough. She needed a boyfriend to feel happy. So she met another guy and they got together, and pushed me away a little.
I confronted her about it, but she "didnt mean it". Also, shed say how im flabby and my arms sag and I need to work out, my belly stick out, not like hers because shes an athlete. Ok, im 5"9 and a half, have got many modeling offers, I have hips, but I'm a size 5 with a tiny waist. I was nowhere near flabby, fat, or whatever she said, and I knew it. She brought my confidence down. Then shed compare boyfriends and said how hers was better than mine. She started comparing and comparing and I just got tired of it so Again, I confronted her about it. She stopped for a while. Then it started again. I got a car, so she had to get a car. I got into some of the best schools in Cali but I couldn't afford them so I had to go to a community college (this is close to graduation btw.) She didnt have 5 dlrs in her wallet to put gas in her car, she'd ask me for rides to school and back. She lived two cities away from me, so I had to drive to school and beyond, back to school, and back to my house, and she never gave me a dime. She got onto a fancy University that requires her to pay $23000 a year and shed say how "im not going to some crappy community college where all the stupid poor people go" with me being right next to her. So, she hurt my feelings time and time again, ad I'd always confront her because she claimed to be the "approachee, not the approacher".
So we graduated. She cried on my shoulder, how were gonna be bffs forever and al this other crap. Then, nothing. Not one text or call. She texted me 2 months later asking where I got my hair done. She drove 2 cities away NEXT to my house to the hair place and didnt say hi. She took advantage of everything I showed her and took all my secrets and used them to her advantage. I didnt contact her either because I want her to approach me for once. But she never did, and I feel horrible. Is i time to let go? Should I delete her from facebook? Should I talk to her? Is she a true friend? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!
<3p.s if people are going to be mean and disrespectful, don't comment please.