My 17year old son is having sex?

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Jaime S

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First thing you should do is stop being so timid. Your choices are two things. Get over the noises, or embarass them together and tell them that it's disrespectful to be so loud. But I wouldn't make them feel uncomfortable doing this type of thing in your house, because you don't want them getting arrested for doing it in a car. But just make sure you yell at them to shut the hell up while they are in the act so it really sets an impression with them.
 
My 17 year old son is in a serious relationship with a girl who has just turned 16. I have been fully aware that they were moe than likey having sex as i had come home early from work to discover them 'jinking' off school and upstairs in his room having sex.
We have had all the discusions about safe sex etc etc and what the house rules are. However this afternoon i was at home ill lying on the sofa when them both came in from school.
They then went up to his room and about 1/2hr later i heard 'noises' coming from his room. The 'noises' became unbearably loud and totally embarassing with the noise she was making! I was mortified and after cooling down went into the kitchen and called my son down. He appeared after a short time and i asked him what he thought they were doing up there??
I ended up asking them both to leave my house!
I feel really angry at him - i have a younger son who is 14 and thank god he was not in! We have house rules and he totally disregarded them and i feel he/she has no respect for what i say.
Please someone give me advice as to what to do now!!
 
Tell him he's grounded for a month.

You can't stop a kid from having sex once they've started, so don't try that. Just tell him that they need to be doing that when they're alone, and you're sick of hearing it. He'll be embarrassed and most likely stop when you're in.
 
Well if he cant follow house rules then I would say they need to stay downstairs when they are over at your house. Or I would tell him that the girlfriend can not come over unless they can follow rules. I am 20 and I have an 18 month old son. I did the same stuff he is doing. It only takes one slip up or one forgotten condom to change their lives forever. Of course all he is worried about is the thrill of the moment. and if you ask them both to leave chances are that they will go somewhere else to have sex. I might even threaten to tell the girls parents.
 
It seems to me that , if you ban them from the house they will then find somewhere else to have sex. they are really far to young and the only way to deal with this is by sensible discussion by the family.The boys father needs to be involved and to speak to him as mine did to me.
 
It does sound that he is being disrespectful. By not enforcing a strict rule to what happens between him and his girlfriend, you have given him a great deal of trust. You need to make him aware again that is your house and your rules.
 
your laying it on a bit thick... it was her that was loud not him and as if he was gona ruin that moment by telling her to shut her mouth

nowt you can do about it really... but as for them waggin school you need to make em snap out of that one
 
I know that you feel angry but you can't just kick them out and not tell them what you are feeling. If you let it just bubble inside of you chances are that you will more likely than not blow up at some point.

I would suggest putting your foot down. Come up for a logical punishment for when house rules are disobeyed. I would suggest covering the house rules once more and reminding him that this is a serious thing. Tell him that you expect him to respect these rules and that if he can't further restrictions will be made. Don't be afraid to get tough with him.
 
Even though I'm only 15, you did the right thing. I mean. Even if he was having sex him and his girlfriend should have the common courtesy that you were there. (i mean you are the mom). You should sit him down and tell him what he's doing is gross.
 
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