Movies and dating - probably not a good mix

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If there is a hint of shyness going on, I'd say a no go. It is 2006, so that shouldn't be that much of a problem.

You haven't seen Van Wilder? Watch it with someone who has seen it and DEMAND they cover your eyes for the dog part. Just say "Chris said to say 'dog part'?" and yeah.

I love Hitch, but not as a 1st date. Unless, this person is someone you've been eyeing up and they you but one of you was unavailable and you have known each other awhile.

Kara! My house, friday night, 8pm. You, me, Office Space.
 
Depends, I think comedies and suspense are kind of date movies, they could appeal the one that goes to the movies as mere entertainment and the picky one.

I agree in which I rather date someone with better taste than me. In fact I was dumped because I had a bit of better taste, it can be a bit intimidating for a guy when the girl likes to watch unpopular but good movies if he only enjoys the bad ones.
 
i think a movie for a first date is a good idea, especially if it's someone you're friends with and you've decided to go out on a date. Even if it's a first date and you don't really know each other, you still have something to fall back on for a conversation. You can use that as an ice breaker over dinner and sicuss the movie then talk about other things.
 
I think going to the movies on a date is a great idea. My fiance and I do it all the time.
 
*cough* **** & ass *cough*
...an expression coined in the 70s. You're showing your age. :lol:
ETA - interesting, the "T" word is starred out, but it's a slang term for breasts.

Yes, SuperGirl, you - although I hate to say it as you're very nice, but if a guy I was dating liked Sleepless in Seattle I'd dump him on the spot. Really. There are few words for how much I despise that film.

But I do have to agree that Hitch might be more of a date movie...I'm kind of on the fence on that one because on the one hand the humor's great, on the other the subject matter's a bit too leading.

Oh, and yes - I'm a NetFlix freak, and would recommend it to anyone. Besides, no late fees (for real - Blockbuster charges you if you keep a film more than 30 days, but I've had NetFlix movies for more tha 6 months with nary a word - it helps their business model when you hold on to films), they reduced their charges after people complained, they don't edit without warning (which Blockbuster STILL does), and they're just darned nice.

Also - anyone who works in an office, especially one with cubicles, should watch Office Space.
 
I mean, I see how that can work, but watching a film is such a personal experience it could much more easily backfire.

Heck, I remember I was with my boyfriend and we saw this amazing film The Field - we'd been dating for months at that point, and seen many, many films together, but we came out of the theater and I made the comment, "Wow...that was s-"

He stopped me and said, "You better not say, 'Stupid.'"

I was shocked and replied, "No, I was going to say it was so depressing." He was okay with that, but had been all prepared to get riled up.

My point - even if you know the person you can have a freakish experience based on what you come out of the film with...and now that I'm typing this it might not have been The Field, it could have been Jacob's Ladder, when something similar happened...
 
Well when I go on a first date, we usually see a movie first and then after we get a bite to eat so we can get to know each other and also talk about the movie as well if we run out of things to talk about :lol:. But I dont usually go on too many first dates to the movies, only once have I done that.
 
Of course, the worst part is dropping the movie reference and they think you're a moron (bad joke) or look as if 'what's your point?'. You know you're in for a long night.
 
True, but I always say that certain things are really personal and should be avoided for any point in an initial relationship:

Sandwhiches (who knows if s/he likes mustard, mayonnaise, sweet pickles or dill? These things matter!)

Perfume (DEFINITELY to be avoided)

Jewelry

Film

Why those four? Because one's personal taste is deeply wrapped up in a lifetime worth of experiences, and you have to know the person usually before you can bond over these things.

But what do I know? It's been years since I've been on a date and the last time I tried to make one (7 months ago) I got completely blown off! :lol: (He said he was super busy, wanted to see me - he kept reiterating that - and would call when his work load lightened. *glances at watch* Yeah, I guess I get the hint. ;))
 
Yes! I love it when I realize someone (hopefully the guy I'm dating) has just surreptitiously inserted a movie reference, especially when it's a movie I like (for example, NOT Spaceballs).
 
Do you like NetFlix? I've been doing the Blockbuster rental thing, but it's getting kind of pricey. :eek:



Me? :innocent: I have my moments. ;) :D

I've never seen Office Space. Well, I take that back. I've seen like...the first ten minutes until I got a phone call. Everyone always tells me I need to see it, though. :shrug:

Why isn't Hitch a date movie?

Sleepless In Seattle is good, too. But that may be too soft for a guy to have to sit through. :lol: You know, scare him off. Save that torture for later on in the relationship. :D
 
:lol: You're such a cutie romantic!


EXACTLY. How else can I tell if he's uptight or not? Come on - the scene with Barry White and the video? Ahahahahahaha! Not to mention the fact that most of my guy friends do indeed of collection of mint-quality-in-their-original-package-scifi-toys. Just sayin'.


Please never tell me what you mean by this. :(
*takes the film off of her NetFlix queue*

And I can't believe I forgot Office Space! I totally meant to include that in my list.
 
Depends on the sequence. It's a way to do something you both might enjoy, as in "ohh that looks good" "yeah, i wanted to see that too" and then you have something to talk about afterwards while at dinner or whatever.

If the movie is the after dinner, then you've already got some vibes going one way or another and you are just sharing time.

The problem would be if the movie was the ONLY thing planned. In which case, all you have is the pre-preview time and the walk to the car time. Those are ackward times anyways for a first date.
 
That is the best, when you can crack a Super Troopers joke and she picks up on it or quotes something back.
 
40 Year Old Virgin might not be that great or it might be awesome. Depends on your shyness level, cuz that will definately spur on the sex topic for conversation.

Date Movies:
Dodgeball
Van Wilder
Harold and Kumar
Jim Carrey (funny)
Office Space

Maybe Not Date Movies:
Hitch
Super Troopers
Eurotrip
40 Year Old Virgin

This is a short list. The Nots - Hitch is a pretty good movie, but would be more of a BF/GF movie. Super Troopers I LOVE, but the consensus is 3rd-4th time watching it is when you fall in love with it. I have known alot of people who didn't get it at first. Eurotrip, too much T/A. 40 YOV - Too sex reliant.

The date movie list is a standard guaranteed laugh without going too far (aside from the dog thing in Van Wilder)

This list is for 1st dates with limited knowledge of what the other person likes. Once you have 2-3 dates in, the door is wide open for whatever.
 
Exactly! Nothing like a good snuggle, especially if inadvertent and with a new dating partner! :lol:
 
It's true - humor counts for SO much, but that's how I knew he had a similar sense of humor to my own (the last one, that is): he was watching Office Space. Super wicked humor! ;)
 
For a first date? I don't know. It could be an ice breaker at the end of the movie because it might give you something to talk about. But then again, it may hinder any chance of having a real sit-down conversation. At that early in the dating process, I'd say a coffee date or something of that sort is more appropriate to get to know someone better.

I love watching movies on dates past the first date, though. Especially ones that scare the hell out of me :lol:
 
Several things made me think of this thread, but the strongest reason is that I never consider going to movies for a date.

Why would you do that? Your'e in an intimate setting watching something probably unknown to you (meaning there could be sex), you can't sit and watch the person to gauge his/her reactions, and you can't talk and get to know each other.

Really bad idea.

But that's just me.

Now, if you're already dating and you go to see a film, horror, romantic comedy, thriller, whatever - that's an entirely different thing and can be a really fun, shared experience.

So what's your take - movies for a first date, or no?
 
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