Movies and dating - probably not a good mix

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:lol: These are all excellent points! I'll let you know how it works for me, if the opportunity arises.

So - how was the date?
 
I think How To Lose a Guy In 10 Days is a good date movie. It's cute, funny, and romantic. ;)
 
I went on a first date to the movies recently actually (The Departed). I don't really count it as a typical first date as it was with a co-worker I've known for a year or so now..so movies were an okay choice. Not sure if I would normally see a movie on the official first date...like others have said, you can't really get to know the person in conversation.

But saying all that, you can still learn a lot about someone by seeing whether or not they discuss which movie to see or if they just pick it and make you go, if they breathe too hard, if they shift too much, do they like candy and soda with their movie, are they irritating by wanting to talk through the movie the entire time or have their cell phone out, etc. And you can get a sense of their personality by seeing how they enjoyed the movie and if their opinion matches your own. I think you can still get to know a lot about someone just by sitting next to them quietly in a movie.
 
Hiya, sweeties! *waves* I miss all of you!

So this is hilarious - I joined an on-line dating site New Year's Eve and found this thread when Googling my name...which may indicate people have been viewing it (as opposed to the 3,000+ other references to my screen name, this was at the top).

And you know, I posted a lot about my previous dating experiences and relationships! Never thought anyone but you all would be reading it. :lol: That'll teach me.

Anyway, I've gone on a few dates by now but none of them have been to see a movie - all food/tea/conversation-oriented. I recently invited someone to dinner at my place thinking we might watch a film, but he had plans...or rather, he told me he had plans for a specific weekend and I mentioned it was too bad since I'd been thinking of inviting him over for dinner and a movie that night...if that makes sense...

I'm still a bit sketchy on whether or not I'd want to see a film on a first date, but now that I've had a few (never really had many traditional dates before, despite my age and other experiences!) I'd say that if I were going to view one, I'd do it after dinner, so I'd have time to know a bit about him, first. Then we might be able to change the film if we need to.

As for the films I'd watch (*looks around to see if the cutie-pie **SuperGirl** is around*) - you couldn't pay me to watch a chick flick. Most of you know I've softened a teensy bit over the years towards these hack films, but I still can't stand them, in general, and I despised How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. I must have been in a charitible mood when I posted the last time to not have said that!

So...films I'd consider seeing with a guy on the first date, taken from what's out in the Bay Area now:
Brazil (depressing, but oh, soooooo good)
Babel (haven't seen it yet, and want to, but am afraid it'll be crap like Crash)
Blood Diamond (which could lead to a lot of personal familial-oriented disclosures on my part, the kind of information one gives on a first date)
Casino Royale (Bond, baby! Need I say more? Except...my lust for Daniel Craig might scare him)
The Departed - not much to say but I want to see it
Dhoom 2 - this would be a real test, and it's the last thing I saw with my friend the week before he had his stroke, and two weeks before he died
Knife in the Water (1962) - haven't seen it but it sounds really good, possibly campy
Volver - but only if I REALLY wanted to be intimate with the guy as soon as I could because Almodovar is so darned racy (and so delicious - adore his films)
Inland Empire - it's Lynch, so I have to see it (as with any Almodovar film)
Last King of Scotland - a friend with great taste raves about it - even if the date sucked at least the film would probably be good.

No real classic films out there right now, and the other films that look interesting are way too angst-ridden. So yeah - that might be the list. Any takers?
 
:lol: You two! The 70s were responsible for a lot of interesting things...most of which I can't discuss on a family-oriented board. ;)



*lol* Exactly!

My problem is the premise - that there's someone out there for you who's just meant to be with you. They don't actually meet until the final scenes, sort of, but they just "know?" Yeah, right - let's continue to delude millions of women into believing that so they'll continue to be miserably unhappy in their current, past and future relationships. :rolleyes:

I just like films that deal with love and relationships a little more responsibly. But I love the Pacific Northwest! Doese that count? Lived in Portland for years (and visited Seattle many times).


See, I would kind of take this route, too. I want to talk to the guy the first time - want to get to know him - and I just think a film can be so loaded, if not for you then possibly for your date (and you don't even know it yet).

Like, suppose you see a horror film and it turns out his parents were brutally murdered by a serial killer? It's not something you'd likely know before hand, and it could negatively tip the scales of the date, even if it's not a romantic film.
 
I loved 40 Year-old Virgin, I actually rented it when I was going out with my ex at the time, and we both laughed so hard.
 
Thats true, but then me and my ex never got onto the discussion of talking about sex or anything of that sort after seeing 40 Year Old Virgin. :shrug:
 
Okay - so what movies WOULD make good date movies?

I'll just throw in my hat and say nothing with sex, or even too much kissing - makes me feel very uncomfortable to see a film with that level of intimacy when I'm with a stranger, and I'm anything but uptight! :lol:

Movies I saw in situations that if the guy had been someone else could have been a date movie (and which the guy would enjoy, not just the girl):
High Fidelity
Mean Girls
40 Year-old Virgin
Memento

I'll think of more soon, but I've got to go...
 
:lol: Yes, it does.

And we were (ever so briefly) engaged. He broke my heart but years later I figure it was for the best. ...Trying to tell me about movies! *pfft* ;)
 
Oh okay, I thought he maybe said that he liked the movie and didnt want to hear you say "it sucked" but now that you said he was sort of an ass, I dont feel as bad from thinking he was being an ass there. If that makes any sense :lol:
 
If This is a first date, I do not see the point I always thought that the first date was the getting to know you date and how can you do that if you are in a dark room. what can you really learn from him besides what kind of movie he like, how he takes his popcorn, how far up he likes to sit...

If it is a date after the first one, then I am all for it. because you already did the whole getting to know you thing and can just relax in each others presense
 
Right, if I were to go on another date to the movies it would be more of a comedy movie since we both can have some really good laughs afterwards.
 
Haley Scott - welcome to the boards! :wave:

Jenny - oh, no - we both felt the same way, he was just presuming I was going to say something I wasn't. ...Come to think of it, he was sort of an ass.

General M - you know, I hadn't thought about it that way but I have to agree you make a very good point. I hadn't thought about it that way at all but I have to agree.

Also, I don't want someone to buy me jewelry because it's cheesy and I don't wear it, but so many women are greedy that way. See? Totally differing tastes.
 
That's okay, I didn't know either. :D




:lol: I would see nothing wrong with a guy I was dating liking the movie Sleepless in Seattle. It's a cheesy romantic movie...and maybe I'm a little biased because it was filmed near where I live. Who knows? :lol: But still, wouldn't make him watch it on the first date. Again, that's just torture. :D More like...How to lose a guy in one day. :lol:

When I signed up for the Blockbuster rentals, I also checked out NetFlix. Didn't really see much of a difference. So, I stuck with what I had. I've been using them for almost a year now, but final had to cancel my membership. The last time I cancelled, to get me to stay, they only charged me $1 a month to stay with them. Let's hope maybe they'll do that again. :lol:

Chris - Friday night, 8pm. Gotcha. :P My place, or yours? ;)
 
That is the reason I favor such things early on. With a sandwich, you can see what they order and how they order it. Perfume, should wear your normal cologne/perfume so they get the real you. Jewelry I have no opinion on. Film, you can get a real sense of someone in how they watch a movie. Annoying laugh, similar sense of humor (a must), overly emotional, sighing over action scenes. So much to learn, why waste time and money over a month of dates.
 
Damn! That didn't cross my mind once and I thought about it... :lol: Ouch. I guess the 70's brought us more than groovy music. :blush: Well, now I know!
 
Shrr- Well that wasnt right of him to stop you from saying your opinion about the movie you saw. When I went on my first date to the movies to see "What lies beneath" my date liked it, but he found it hilarious that I fall alseep during that movie which turned our date into a fit of laughs which was nice. I wouldnt mind going on more dates to the movies, but I guess it all depends on the date and if you both are movie junkies and what type of movies you both enjoy together.
 
That is all subjective. Which is why sometimes a movie date is a great idea, while it is a horrible in other instances.
 
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