Motivation?

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Grrrrrrr....I don't know what the fuck my problem is. No matter how shitty a situation I get myself into, it never really phases me. Sure, I don't like falling on hard times--no one does--but the thing is, I don't feel bad enough to take any steps towards correcting my problems. I feel tired and shitty most of the time. I can barely manage to drag my ass out of bed, let alone put much effort into anything. Lack of energy or just plain bullheadedness, I don't know, but I can't really say I care about much. My whole world could be falling apart and I would simply sit back and let it happen. Lame, I know.

I used to think it was depression, but I've already gone down that road and gotten help. I was doing pretty well for awhile; seeing a counselor, learning to appreciate the good things in my life, making changes for the better....but no matter how much progress I've made, I can't seem to overcome this underlying lack of motivation.

I don't know what to do. I get so frustrated with myself over this, sometimes I just want to bang my head against a wall, hoping maybe it will wake me up.

So, anyone have any ideas? It's been an ongoing problem for years, so you can't tell me to simply get over it. If it were that easy, I wouldn't be sitting here typing this post.
 
I'm sorry to hear of your motivational problems. I used to have this kind of problem for years when I was in high school. I'd just lie around and wait for the world to come at me, only responding when I really had to and, even then, not often enough.
For me the hardest thing has always been taking those first few steps to make a change in my life. Once something has been put in motion, however it's always easy to view it as an ongoing process and continue ahead.
Out of high school I started an exercise routine and really got in shape (still am). After this accomplishment, I found it was easy to apply the same motivational driving force that I experienced while exercising to other tasks that I was procrasting (avoiding) on.
Basically, it all comes down to the need to contemplate the day's activities less and involve's taking a more proactive stance towards getting the tasks of the day accomplished. Which translates well into the bigger picture of accomplishing life goals.
I hoped this helped a little :)
 
Move out, live on your own. Figure shit out.

It'll give you time to think about what you want. Once you know what that is, you'll hunger for it and figure out ways to achieve it.

And I'm not talking about material things.
 
i go through the same thing sometimes.. for me, my problem is lack of affection, that includes just my normal friends. basically when i'm not hanging out with my friends as much and dont have a special someone to come home to, i feel like shit. like the world hates me. i know it's an exaggeration now (even though i still think the world hates me **shrug**), but it's not as bad as i'm making it out to be. but definately, the joy i felt with my friends and loved ones was my motivation at times.

i'm not saying that's your problem, or that being with someone special or just hanging with friends will help you feel better. just giving my view, and one possibility.

feel better zollypop
 
Quitii, sounds like you need to love yourself and believe in yourself a little more. Friends and loved ones are a great distraction and can sometimes be great people to work/grow with, but the mention of you feeling like shit when no one's around is a sure sign that you need to face who you are.
 
aww, zolly, i've gone through stages like that. it can be very frustrating. it reminds me of the movie "Garden State". If you haven't seen it, you might check it out. I think BCB has the right idea; get out on your own. Maybe do a bit of travel first, see the world, or at least the country, visit friends in far away warm places, like say... san diego for instance.

Maybe you just need to shake things up a bit at home. Go do something you've never done before but have always been curious about. I wish i could do more to help.
 
I'd have to agree with you on this one. For me, personally, I feel the best when I'm by myself and no longer have self-esteem issues. The key is to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you can accomplish anything and then go about actually commiting time and energy behind what you believe in and behind what you'd like to do with your life.
It's really easy to believe in yourself if you give yourself reason to believe.
 
It's okay Quitii, I don't mind. Any input on the subject is appreciated, even if it is not aimed directly towards me or my specific situation.
 
I don't know, Zolly. I'm the exact same. I can't move out though :sad: . I suppose I'll be happy again and have time for me when my kids are grown. Then I'll sit and mope and be depressed because the kids are grown....
 
Zolly, there must be something you're interested in that you're too afraid to do. Look into yourself, find that, be strong and go for it. You have nothing to lose.

I know it sounds cheesy & cliche but it's true.
 
i didnt read any of the replies but...

i have the same problem a bit. i lack motivation because i feel overwhelemed most of the time. not sure if this is your issue as well? maybe your just a lazy person though? in that case marry for money not love.

anyway.. if feeling overwhelemed is your problem.. take things slow. do things one at a time. focus on the little picture rather then the big one. im a good motivator... if you want i can yell at you constantly.. might make you more motivated

im addicted to ...'s BTW :-/
 
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