Mother In Laws.....Is it okay if I rant?

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So this is mostly just a rant and if you want to join in please do....

This past Friday my MIL had the day off so she kept my son for me while I got some things done at work (usually bring him w/ me) Well I get home that afternoon and she told me he had been very fussy earlier so since she thought he was teething she put some Orajel on his gums. Well the funny thing is is that we have no Orajel (I left it at work a few weeks ago) so I just went along and said 'Oh, where did you get the Orajel at'? So she proceeds to go the the cupboard and pull out a tiny tube of medicine that was for an eye infection my son had when he was a newborn! I gave her a look of horror and she said 'Oh no! I was going to use this but then I realized it wasn't the right stuff! I almost did though, good thing I didn't!' Yeah,right...luckily my son acted fine so I didn't get pissed or say anything to her.....

Fast forward to Sunday morning. We get up and go to church with my MIL. After church we were leaving but I decide since were going to go eat lunch I better change my little boys diaper there. Well a lady that goes there told me to use one of the Sunday school rooms. While i'm in there I hear my MIL and a few other ladies (that don't know me from Adam...) talking about if i'm pregnant again or not. One lady said 'She sure looks it!' Which my MIL agrees. Then another says 'Wearing those flowey tops she must be trying to hide it!' MIL agrees again. By this time i'm just FUMING! I grab my son and walk out of the room and their faces all turn Bright Red as they scurry off! My MIL says she's sorry they were saying those things and that she knows i'm not pregnant and that those nosey woman just need to mind their own business! Yeah right....Well, after this weekend i'm pissed at her...might not have been before but now I am!

Feel free to join in.....it doesn't even have to be about your MIL...just anyone that has pissed you off lately...
 
I'm lucky I really don't have to deal with my MIL but she does make me very upset. We live in UK (Military) and she is in the states. We've been asking her to visit since our daughter was born early May. She told us she only gets one week of vacation a year and it is the last week of June and she can't change it. Since the tickets were so expensive we understood her not coming to visit. Well, my SIL had her daughter Sept. 6 and my MIL took a whole WEEK off to help with the baby...that made me completely mad. And for our shower she bought us a $50 memory box, but for my SIL she got her a crib, Pack play, clothes, and TONS more. My husband has always been her favorite and now because he choose a career that takes him far away, it's almost as if she's punishing him.

When we asked her how she was able to take a week off that wasn't in June, she just told us, she can take off whenever, and that my SIL needed the help and has no one to help her. It made me so mad because we had just moved to England in Feb and I had the baby in May so I knew ABSOLUTELY no one besides my husband and if any one needed help, it was me. MIL will always be the bad guys :)
 
Trust me you do not have enough time in your day to hear me rant about mine! Here is just a few...

1. She invited my husband's ex and ex girlfriend to my rehersal dinner... I said "well then the bride won't be coming".
2. She tells everyone that my husband is a bad father which is a LIE.
3. She walked out of my baby shower because I was looking at the gifts with my mom and she "wasn't invited to look at them"... Like she needed a freaking invitation.
4. When my son was born - he had to stay in the NICU and I was really upset about this and cried and she told me "oh well - write a letter".... I felt like smacking her!
5. Some days she doesn't even speak when you talk to her. Like she is deaf! Which she isn't.

It has been 8 years and I can't even think of all of them right now. I have tried soooo hard with that woman but I am to the point that I could care less about having a relationship with her. I have gotten to the point when she makes her stupid a$$ comments - I give it right back to her. My parents taught me to treat others with the same respect they treat me with. And she treats me and my husband like dog crap.
 
I am sorry that you are going through that but I am so glad that I am not the only one dealing with MIL like this. She has always been this way towards me and granted it has gotten better since we got married and had a baby, but she still knows how to get under my skin. I have a son that is currently 18-months old. When he was 4-months old, I decided to go back to work and she offered to keep him so I wouldn't have to put him in daycare. Great. I get to save the extra money and I don't have to worry about him being with strangers. Well, for the first few weeks it was fine besides her trying to change his feeding schedule. I addressed that issue and I thought everything was fine. Well, I overheard her talking to one of her friends about the reason she can not get anything done around her house is because it is hard taking care of a newborn. Well, he slept most of the day so there was definitely time for her to do stuff around her house. Then on another ocassion I heard her tell someone that she could not go somewhere one afternoon because she was watching my son. Well, low and behold, after that comment my son was in daycare within two weeks.

Now, I am pregnant with twins (unexpected and unplanned - I was on the pill with no medicine to alter it.). When we told my MIL that we were pregnant, the look on her face was priceless. Well the reason she was so shocked is because the previous week, I overheard her talking to one of her friends and her sisters about my husband and I having another baby. Well, my MIL went on to tell them that it was going to be at least 3 or 4 years before we have another if we even have another. My husband and I are clueless to know where she got that from. If we would not be pregnant now, we would have started trying within the next month or two. That was our original plan but things aren't always as they plan. Get this. After the twins are born, I am planning to be a SAHM. Well, that is a whole other can of worms that I will not go into.

Sorry for the book but good luck with your MIL.
 
Oh, wow. I'm so sorry you had to go through that! That's awful!

My MIL has been REALLY nice to me lately. The first year or so was pretty hard, but things have calmed down a lot. I'm so thankful.

Who has made me mad lately? Hmm... The Wal-Mart customer care worker.

We got grapes, the sign said they were 98 cents a pound, so we got two bags. When we checked out, they rang up as $1.98 a pound, so we took it to customer care after we checked out. We told them what happened and they said, "Another woman came earlier saying her grapes rang up more than she thought they should be."

So another woman, one not attending to us, goes to check the price. She comes back and says, "The red grapes are $1.98 a pound. They've been that price all day."

Yeah, right!! That's why another woman complained about it, too!

So we returned the grapes and got our money back..we weren't going to pay $10 for grapes! What we didn't know until we got home, though, was that we accidentally gave them our nectarines, too! Gr! I was SO mad!....I was pmsing, by the way, lol.

Oh, and when we left Wal-Mart, we looked over at the grape sign... it now said $1.98 a pound. So either someone changed it right after we got grapes, or the customer care worker changed it when she went to "check" it.

And I really wanted those grapes... lol

Something that really used to annoy me that my MIL did, though, was she always referred to my husband (her son) and me as "Michael and them.".......................... lol.
 
My MIL sent CAde home in a pink jumper with a pink and purple pacifier. I wanted to punch her. All she had to say was boys can wear pink. I almost died. Needless to say we havent been getting along lately.
 
I can't stand my Mother in law either! I have even better stories!! They sure know how to get under your skin! It is a shame cause we love their sons so much! I have decided after 6 years that I am done with trying to be nice. I just put my family first and make myself happy~ If it pisses her off then so be it. It is all about me and my kids not her. It took a long time for me to be like this. It also took my husband sitting her down and telling her the way it is going to be from now on. GOOD LUCK! You have to take a stand for yourself!
 
I am 20 weeks pregnant.

My MIL doesn't know about amniotic fluid. I had to tell her that babies are surrounded by amniotic fluid in the uterus. My MIL never asks how I am feeling. When I asked for pregnancy advice in past, she says I don't remember. I get along with her, but she only talks about herself and her problems.
 
i know what you're saying. my MIL is annoying but i try to get along with her. she acts like she knows everything about raising kids even though my fiance had lived with his aunt since he was about 8.
i returned to work when my son was 6 weeks old that weekend since my fiance was going out of town i was having my step mother watch my son ( she did every weekday). well... my MIL who lives 2 hours away begged me to let her come up and watch him, so i agreed.
when she got there i told her where everything was, left my cell phone #, my work #, and told her the street that i workedd on. i also, told her how to heat up the breastmilk and all that.
well when i got home from work she wasn't there ( which was fine) but she had locked herself out of my house with no milk, left without the emergency numbers. and to top it all off she went yard saling with my son and left him the car while she looked at stuff. and we all know just how loud 6 week olds cry right? so they ended up giving him formula, which pissed me off. andd when i got there his belly was so full you could hear it jiggling inside of him and the he puled everywhere. it was like every time he criedd all they did was feed him.

once my son was eating toast and he was about 9 montsh old and jsut barely got his first tooth. she was OH BE CAREFUL! mae sure he doesn't choke.i gave her a dirty look. i know my son alot better than sehe does
 
Poor thing - My MIL an SIL's and FIL are all against me too, and they try to make it seem like I am the unreasonable one. Thing is I like them as people and how they treat the rest of the world but I would love to be a fly on the wall to hear what my husband tells them which is why I think they treat me so poorly. They are very nice and generous people but always have a dig to give me and it is one of those passing things like Oh I guess with two boys and another baby on the way it is a good thing you have John (my husband) to help clean up around here.

When My husband slept in and I did all the cleaning Cut the grass and stacked the wood pile while taking care of two kids... AGGGG I tried to say that it was only me who had done it, and that John was busy with other things (like sleeping) but they don't believe me.

My sister in law left a message "Hi John guess your cleaning today and can't hear the phone where's K guess shes out shopping. Call me back" AGGGG I was outside with my kids playing and He was Sleeping again I was so angry.

They are nice people just not to me. I really don't blame them anymore I actually think my husband wants to make himself out to be a saint or something and tells them all the things WE did eventhough I don't have any mice in my pockets, and he was sleeping or working -- YEAH he really isn't any help and can spend about 2 hours washing two dishes in the sink but because he spent so much time he is the one who does all the cleaning, it isn't the time you spend or the money it is what you have to show for it, and his output isn't nearly what his input is so to me it is a waste of time.
 
Omg! I totally understand!! My MIL would do the exact same thing!! She's just, god I don't know a good word for it but DANG!! I remember when I used to work, my MIL watched my kids for me. One day I thought hey, I'm gonna get out early and go take my kids for a post-lunch ice cream cuz I was having a bad day. I get there and NO ONE IS THERE. I was pissed! I had my cell phone on, she has a cell phone, no excuse for this!! I waited 2 1/2 hours in that driveway until she finally showed up and had this look like "oh, what are you doing here?" I wanted to smack her. I said, "where were you" she said they had to run into the church office for stuff. I'm like "I had my cell phone....." she said she forgot hers. So this crazy woman is dragging my kids an hour and a half away w/o telling me and w/o a cell phone?! What the hell! What if they were in an accident I wouldn't have known!!

Then another time we were spending the weekend there because we lived away from all our family. So she wants to take the kids down to church with her in the morning, our son was sick so we said no but our daughter could go. We specifically told her NOT to take our sons car seat because, 1. they were in different types of car seats 2. we we're keeping him, we needed it. What does she do? TAKES THE WRONG CAR SEAT! Words cannot explain how I felt at that point. Again, she "forgot" her cell phone. So we had to wait ALL FRICKIN DAY for them to get back at 2 pm when they left at 8:30 am. Upon her returning we flew off the handle at her and all she had to say was "I wondered why she (my daughter) was hunched to side the whole way down there" Of course she was!! That car seat was too small for her!! And you'd think the woman would ask to make sure she was doing right.. nope. She'd rather do EVERYTHING wrong then ask for help and she wonders why she rarely watches them.. stupid.
 
rant away its good to get it out of your system!! maybe add a question at the end so you dont get deleted by the meanies
 
Brilliant its always good to rant.

Well its my birthday... I had to buy and wrap my own presents from my husband and boys, didnt get a card from work mates until just now they made me wait all day. Wont even get a tezt from either sister as they are miserable f***ers and its probably going to rain later.
 
Gosh - I wish I had a great story to add like these but unfortunately nothing really comes to mind. When I have my "moments", I stop take a deep breath and count to 10.

I sure got a kick out of reading everyones experiences and "letting it out!"
 
oh wow...ok well the orajel story is a little frightening becuase it obviously was a mistake on her belhalf...but a minor (thank god) mistake and people make them so its easliy forgivable.

but her talking about you like that is just rediculous. you need to tell her until she can learn to not gossip and support her family, not try to gain the approval of her "chuch groupies" that you dont feel she is a fit role model to watch your son. ha

now my rant. ha that would be a long one. im 39 weeks pregant so im sure if you remember that feeling youd understand...EVERYTHING pisses me off. and its all such stupid things. like i have a little car so the baby seat dosent really fit unless you put the passanger side seat up pretty far but it still fits. well i tell my boyfriend when people get in NOT TO MOVE THE SEAT BACK. it dosent go back. well he NEVER tells anyone not to move it back so at no fault of their own they move it back and now the seat canopy thing is all bent up AND I HAVENT EVEN USED IT YET. ugh.
 
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