Mostly just need to rant...advice would be a bonus ;)?

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So...I'm dating this guy...basically the most amazing guy ever. I've never dated a guy who's treated me soooo incredibly good (I've actually only dated guys who have used me, which has probably played a part into how I'm feeling). Basically...I don't know what I'm supposed to feel if I'm "really and truly" in love, you know? And I mean, we haven't been together for a long time but, apparently "I'll just know"? But I'm mostly terrified to want this now and then regret it someday and not be with my "soulmate" you know?

ANYWAY. If you have any pieces of wisdom, I would LOVE it. I'm not even sure what my question is. Hopefully you can decipher it.
 
That whole "you'll just know" thing people say is crap, really it is. You will think you love someone and then you will come to realize years later that that wasn't actually love. Only then will you know that you actually love the person you are with, suck doesn't it?
Anyway there is no way to know for sure, only time can help you out there, time and experience. I don't believe in the "soulmate" thing, I think it's a terrible thing to believe there is just one person out there for you, I think there are a lot of possible matches for all of us. If you believe there is only one you will always doubt who you are with and that will wreck all of your relationships. Don't push love, there's no rush. you might love this guy you might not but in the end this relationship will help you learn something about love either way.
 
There is no such thing as a soul mate, but two people that are willing to do the work needed to keep a relationship interesting and enriching. I think in my own relationship, we take turns taking care of each other. Its good to know what purpose you have in each others lives, and the biological needs of women and men. Women no matter how educated and successful will always need someone who is affectionate, supportive and protective. Men need to feel useful and appreciated. So taking it day to day and expressing yourself in an assertive manner is important. Love is a gift and being too cautious is bad, but being careless is bad too. However being conscious of the relationship and each other's importance is how you are going to stay together.
 
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