Morally kicked in the Groin

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Mairéad

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So...my love life(like many other wtfers im supposing, and a story that you've heard before) is composed of failed attempts and worthless months spent chasing people I can't get. Until two weeks ago.
I started hanging out with this girl named Lexi, and I started to like her. We had dated twice, not like much really occured in those two nights but I see her everyday at school and seeing as my ruddy love life was in the dumps, I started to like her. A lot.
Well now shes all broken hearted over some ex-boyfriend of hers from Kansas. From FUCKING KANSAS. We live in VIRGINIA. I dunno...it just doesn't seem logical. The boyfriend told her that they should stop talking...and he cheated on her...and that his new 'girlfriend' didnt want them to talk to each other anymore because she felt inadequate. And one more sidenote, they broke up 4 months ago.
Well I didn't know any of this...until tonight...when she called me up and pulled the whole stunt of "Let's just be friends!!!"
:rofl: :hairout: :suicide:

We hung out everyday at school...talked to each other all the time...I had it made for once in my shitty existence and now I've lost her and my already pitiful love life will return to the status that I had before. I'm fucking tired of life fucking me over. I just want someone to hug god damnit! Is that so fucking hard to get? That's all I fucking want and it's always outta my reach. I feel like I can't talk to anyone. I have friends..but it's not enough anymore. I just want someone to be there for me..just for some needed moral support..god damnit...I'll be awaiting my "stfu em0 lewser t33nag3r" award. Could someone send me some e-cyanide?
 
Remeber that in the end, all things get better. She may seem uninterested now, but if you still like her, keep hanging around, offer to be her morale support. Tell her you're their for her regardless, and that she can trust you with anything.

In time she'll come around, and if she doesn't.
Well you'll find the person meant for you.

Until then an e-hug is the best any of us can do god damnit!
:hug2:


Hope that helped.
 
umm no. Dont get over it with tooo much booze. thats just taking you away from the reality for some time. You will have to deal with it eventually. I think what farceur says makes sense.

Just tell her that you'll be there for her whenever she needs you. Stick around aand be her shoulder to lean on. Give her some time, she'll come around eventually. I mean which girl wouldnt fall for a huy who helps her when she needs it the most and doesnt act all horny about. It would be cliche if she does go out with you though.


oh yeah....and I'll let the e-hugs to farceur :tongue:
 
Well the ridiculous thing is that she was the one who suggested taking it slowly...and during those seemingly pointless 2 weeks nothing happened...other than cuddling during the movie Big Fish. I never suggested anything.

Who doesn't like cuddling?

Anyway...I'm not really sure if I could stand being her shoulder...it hurts being turned down for a guy who doesn't want her and lives in Kansas...even when she's told me both of those things. It just seems like persuing her would be a lost cause...and as you said skullmaster, it would be cliche if she dated me anyway.

Gah...I dunno.
 
I disagree with the above advice. If she wants to be friends, and you want more, you will be the "boo hoo boy". She'll whine about her problems, you'll be the "good friend" and she'll find another guy, a guy who challenges her or turns her on. You'll never get it, you'll always hate yourself for being a puppy following the girl. Fuck that man.

Break it off, find another girl, nothing turns a chick on like when you're making some other girl happy. Seriously. You'll be more happy following my advice, though it will hurt more in the short run. Don't be the fallback guy, it hurts more in the long run.

Your call, good luck with whatever you decide.
 
JX, I don't think anything would make me feel more awesome than making out with some other chick, just to prove to her that the kid from Kansas is totally fucking worthless and that Welshy is TEH ALFA-MAIL.

However..the problem is finding that other chick. But I'll try to take your advice. Anyone else have any ideas?
 
Very true, I tried being the "friend" so she will maybe have a chance of coming back but she got another BF and I was just her best friend... I lost in the game of love...

Just get in there and tell here how you feel, and if that fail get another girl, just like JL said..
 
I told her today...on the phone when she pulled the classic "Let's be friends" stunt. I said that I was still willing to try...and that this fellow from Kansas an illogical goal...but she kept saying some sort of bullshit like "I know but we were really close and I still have feelings for him."

Does Welshy have to choke a bitch?
 
Nope, what JLXC said is good. I was going to post this thoughtful, insightful response from a "been around the block" point of view. But I decided reality and life is just too depressing and it wouldn't make you feel any better, so yeah, what he said. ;)
 
Well if I was going to break this off...I mean how would I go about doing it? We've been good friends for a long long time...and I don't feel like being "I'm not your toy. Fuck Off." There's gotta be some way to tell her that I do want to be friends, but that if she's not going to give this a chance...then I'm not going to either.
 
Mr. Welshman, you're making the same mistake I used to make.

You're hyperfocussed man. You like this one chick and she's pretty much all you'll consider. Don't do that man. It puts all this weird pressure on you and you're stuck wondering when she hugs you if it meant something.

Go out and just date. Find some random chick in one of your classes and ask her to dinner. Or chat up the chick at the bookstore (there's always a chick at the bookstore) and take her for a cup of coffee. The point is you don't have to be friends to go out. Just friendly enough to say "Hey, you wanna grab a cup of coffee?" Figure out if you can be friends once you're out with her.

There's absolutely no point in hanging around waiting for her to make up her mind. If you do that, from her perspective you'll be good old solid and boring Joe. Instead, move along. Be nice to her, be her pal but don't hang out waiting for her every call. If she calls and you're out with someone else she may get the idea or she may get jealous.

I'm serious. One of two things will happen: 1. You'll forget about Lexi and find some other chick that blows your mind or 2. She'll come around and realize that you are a catch and want you. Either way, you win man.
 
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