Military Wives and Men HELP! Please!?

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I just got married Friday to my husband who is in Iraq (Via Proxy marriage online). We're both young, 21. He's stationed in Baumholder, Germany and just re-enlisted for another three years. It was a mutual decision that we are both happy with. But now we have decicded that I am going to pick up my life and move there with him. Inside I am terrified. I am moving on my own, to another country.. I'm worried about being able to get a job since we'll be living in Germany and being able to bring in my own share of income (Even though he has made it quite clear that I dont need to work, I just feel like its something that I should do) because back here in the states I have a good job that pays well. So of course being able to get a job over there is going to be on my list of concerns. I've always been independent and the thought of leaning on him and depending on him makes me feel voulnerable. So my job has always been my security blanket. I'm also nervous about being in another country and knowing very little if anything about my soon to be surroundings. My husband has lived there for over two years so he's familiar with the town, the life style, the people, everything and I get nervous about becoming mentally lost through everything.

I need advice and help.
I'll be the first to admitt that I am a control freak and I'm the person who always have to be on top of things. I just want to know what its really like living on base. Or in another country. Is the lifestyle the same? Do they have the normal everyday things over there that we have here in the states? Whats the base like? Is it like a small community? I really am clueless and completely stepping out of my box for him. Anything would be helpfull. Advice, knowledge, and experience would be great. Thanks.
 
We live on base in Louisiana, and I can't tell you about another country, but it feels that way to me being that I came from CA. My husband and I got married and 10 days later, he went into the AF. I move with the help of my parents (with driving, not moving) to TX and got an apartment to be near him when he was in Tech School. I admit, it was rough - I went from my home town where I was born and raised, with all of my family RIGHT THERE.... to a strange town, a strange state (not strange per say... but strange to me).

I just brought my resume with me and applied for anything and everything. I just needed a job. I worked at a Circle K for about a month or 5 weeks and landed a receptionist job for a real estate company. So, once I was moved into my apartment (I say MY because he was in school and wasn't allowed to live off base - he could however stay the night, and did - 7 days a week! LOL) and I had a secured job, I felt fine. My husband and I started to make friends with our neighbors and then we were moved to LA, where we have been stationed for over 6 years now.

The military is a different life. You meet some people that are great, and some that aren't. All I can suggest is to be friendly but keep an eye out. Some spouses have nothing to do, so they create drama that may or MAY NOT be true. I'm sure they will be friendly in welcoming you to the neighborhood, as you should be to those that move in after you. My gal pal and I bake up something and take a plate with our phone numbers to help those that just moved in - adjust. :-)

I'm sure it will be fine. We've had two horrible neighbors since we've been to this base - which isn't bad for 6 and a half years. LOL

Feel free to message me if you have any other questions. :-)
 
Well I'm stationed in Kaiserslautern about an hour from Baumholder. But I know that Baumholder is a pretty small town, and the base is a decent size. They have everything you need pretty much on base, commissary, food, PX (where you can get anything from household appliances to electronics and clothes.) The Army also has lots and lots of things to do if you're married or while your husband is deployed. I know the transition to being a military wife is a little different and sometimes overwhelming, but people will always be there to help you out.
 
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