MIL Rant- Would this bother you?

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I had to spend the week with my little sister in the hospital in another state last week, I just got back and picked up my son from my MILs house, and when we got home I started unpacking his clothes.. when I took them out I noticed that they were still packed just like I had packed them, and still smelled like my laundry detergent (I use Gain, she uses Tide) She had given me another bag of clothes that I thought were from my bils little boy, but no.. they were all new, but had been worn and washed in Tide. SO, she didn't put any of the clothes I sent with him on him, but bought all new ones (cutsie ones with bunnies and crap that she knows I would NEVER put on him) instead. This is so typical of her, but it just grates my nerves.. as if his other clothes weren't good enough? (She thinks little boys should be cute, not look like older kids, and I dress my son in jeans, hoodies and tennis shoes. She still puts him in onesies and booties at 17 months! lol)

What's your best MIL rant?
Oh, forgot to mention that he has an adorable little faux-hawk, but when I picked him up she had it trained to lay to the side and full of hairspray! lol It'll take me a week to get it straightened out again. :/
 
Yes it would irritate me. This is one of those times you just have to pick your battles, to me this isn't one to fight over. Just let it go and let MIL have fun dressing up her grandson for now :)
 
Yes, sometimes MIL's and mother's too can be annoying (which is what this was, it was annoying) but it wasn't evil or harmful....AND you had peace of mind knowing your son was spending time with Grandma who adores him enough to buy him new clothes and took the time to groom him etc. etc.....
 
You know my MIL was great. always on my side, but lately something's wrong with her. I'm pregnant, and it's her first grandchild from my BF. So they (she and SIL) are doing the baby shower. Doesn't the MIL call my BF's phone, he doesn't answer, then she calls my home phone, and I answer, she asks ME to ask HIM (BF) to see what food HE wants.

"Does he want chicken parm, or does HE want shells. Cause I was thinking we should have something vegetarian, so ask HIM what HE wants." I wasn't sure what it was for, but I asked him, and he said, whatever, lol. That's when I asked her, is this a special meal for HIM??? She goes not it's for the baby shower.

IN my head I'm thinking, WTF? I'm the one that's pregnant, with food cravings, and blah blah blah, and she goes out of her way to make sure that I ask him? What about me?

Oh but wait.,.......

I have a son who's 9, her daughter has 2 daughters 1 &3. So we go over for Christmas, and when it's time we start opening gifts. She gave the girls SO many things I thought it was the second comming of Santa. She gave my son a card, with $10.00. My son was confused, and hurt. He asked me if there was anything else for him, I obviously lied and said it's not that you didn't get enough presents it's that they didn't open their presents this morning, which they had. Just thinking about it makes me furious. I didn't expect her to buy my son a whole bunch of stuff, but if you're going to do that, please let me know, so my son doesn't like a piece of crap cause you're too inconsiderate or don't care enough to say something. I could have gotten him some toys to open over there. Anyways, lol. I think I don't like your MIL's behavior. I would leave it at her house, and say these are the clothes my son is wearing. If she changes his clothes, I would (in front of her) change his clothes into HIS clothes, and drop the ones she bought him on the floor.
 
some times it is best to ignore MIL's... they do things to bug you... dont give them the upper edge... though the hair pushed it a little too far...

donot involve your husband... tell him in a nice way donot sound complaining...

I am sure if you thank her... she will get surprised:)
 
oh lord. I can top that *smiles*

When my daughter was 2 weeks old, we(the baby, me and my boyfriend) went out to eat with my boyfriends parents.. to a chinese restaraunt.. well She basically tried feeding her snow peas. I told her all she could have was breastmilk, and she couldnt possibly eat that..

So then when my daughter was 2 1/2 months old, i went with my boyfriends parents(without him) to his grandparents for dinner. We stopped and got BBQ dinners from this one place, well his mom jokinly said in the car, "we should give her a rib to chew on shed love it" ..Im thinking are you crazyy??? I reply, no all she can eat is breastmilk. She replys back with "Oh that poor deprived child"...how is that deprived?!

So then at dinner, while eating, she was sitting her in carseat on the floor next to me, (not strapped in...) and i was talking to my boyfriends grandma (who was to my left, my daughter was to my right) ANd when i looked back over to my daughter, there was a bbq covered rib two inches from her mouth, OMG i freaked out! Like. how DARE she wheni told her no before?!??!

shes crazy..

AND she was in the room when i gave birth....
and before she asked if she could video tape, i said no, and then she asked if she could take pictures i said no, only when everything is all covered and its all done with. Well During labor, while i was pushing, already for 1 1/2 hours... a freaking flash goes off, who is it?!? None the less, my boyfriends mother. Omg, i was so mad, you have no idea.

those are just a FEW!
haha
 
My MIL and I got into it a few years ago when we were at her house. My niece was hungry (mom had fed them Wendy's) and everything had been sitting out for over an hour. She told me she was hungry and i asked if we could go into Grandma's fridge and see if we could find some fruit. (I believe children should eat a well balanced meal, not Wendy's) She got up and screamed that if she was hungry that she could eat the cold, nasty fries and would not let us go in th house. Needless to say, my MIL does not watch my 2 1/2 year old and never will!
 
That would be enough to piss me off. I would lay into her but that is just my personality. The hair is what would have pushed me over the edge. I would talk to your husband maybe he could say something to her. The clothes I would mail back to her (the ones she bought) sounds like she is babying him too much.

Hopefully you can get this resolved. Best wishes.. But you are right to be mad IMO

Just my 2 cents worth
 
As a mother of two who's inlaws arent around to help take care of them- I wouldn't complain if they bought my kids new outfits- even ones i didnt like. I would be thankful that she is around to take care of your son and she is someone you know will take good care of him when you have to go away. Seriously, they are clothes and hair. When it really comes down to it- does it really matter? At least she loves your son and he was well taken care of!
Are all of you other posters kidding me? She bought the kid clothes and combed his hair different!!!!!! It;s not you found out she sticking bleach in his sippy cups for crying out loud. If you dont like the damn clothes- dont put them on your son! Sheesh. Has everyone forgotten to count their blessings and realize what is really important in life? Your son may grow up to love the little bunnies and hate his faux hawk. THEY ARE JUST CLOTHES! and it's JUST HAIR. Be thankful she cares!

And to the poster about Wendy's-- are you kidding me? You dont let your MIL watch your kids because she fed them Wendy's?????????? ISn't that half the fun of staying at grandmas house?? You get to do things that your parents wouldn't normally let you totally get away with at home.
 
Wow, some of you have wicked MILs. How on earth did she not stop the wedding when they asked for objectors? I'm glad to say I have a decent relationship with my MIL, it's my sister in law that pisses me off the most. My son is exclusively breastfed, and she keeps on nagging me to put him on the bottle because it's easier. BULL! I keep on telling her I want to breastfeed as long as possible, but she just doesn't get it. Also when I was pregnant, she expected me to babysit her kids for free all the time, and if I didn't she'd get pissed off. Well excuse me for having doctors appointments. Plus, I've mentioned plans to be a SAHM and first thing out of her mouth was "yes free babysitting". That's not why I want to be a stay at home mom, to babysit your kids, no. If she thinks child care is so expensive that her wages barely cover the cost, why doesn't she be a SAHM? I'll tell you why, it's because she gets tired of her kids, she goes out and parties all weekend leaving my poor brother in law to watch them. The only way he gets out is if he has a hockey game. Otherwise we have to go over to their house. And that's another thing, she's a clean freak and complains that her kids come home covered in dog and cat hair, after I babysat them for free. Then if I leave a glass out she's all over me for being a slob. AGH!
 
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