middle child syndrome (mature educated and experienced good mothers only without

LauraLorLor

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It's a combination of a phase and being a five year old. I babysit a 7 and 5 year old who have just got a new baby brother and the 5 year is finding it a little hard to adjust. Yesterday I was holding the baby while his mum took a shower and he wanted me to go outside and spray him with the hose (it's been kind of hot recently...). I told him I can't because I didn't want to put the baby down and wake him up but I would do it later and he started pushing me, kicking and punching and trying to wake the baby up. But most of the time he LOVES his baby brother and loves being his big brother.

She'll get over it, just like the boy I look after (I really hope!)

Also, I will just add in regards to the answer above me, children do need to learn that they can't constantly come before everyone else. I am one of five children, we all had to learn that it's not all about us and our parents couldn't possibly devote all their time to just one of us.

P.S. Please use paragraphs next time.
 
disrespectful answers)? My daughter is the middle child she is pre school aged and is now the middle child, she loves her little sister to death, very helpful and happy when she is around. My older son still in elementary school , is extremely smart and people friendly, so with him getting attention and the new baby getting attention. I think my daughter has developed middle child syndrome. I take time out with her with her just by herself and get ice cream, talk, we do nails and get our nails done at the salon, and once a month, i kick my husband out of the room and i let her sleep in the bed with me and i tell her i love her, she loves it, we do alot just us together, just like i take time out with just my son and just the baby. But since she was the baby for a long time and the only girl in the family at one point, she got alot of attention, now she is not the only girl and she has to share her attention more with the baby. She has been causing more fights with her brother, not saying that he is always innocent, but he may push her a little and she will fall over and cry like he has beat her to death and exaggerate it, what she says may be real to her, and i discipline him for it, but i have to teach her to tell the truth, but at times, i think she does it when she does not have my full attention. When i am busy, i tell her look, i have to do this but give me an hour and i spend time with you, she may say no one likes me, i am bored, no one want to play with me, the kids hate me, and i dont know where it is coming from, i dont want to drop what i am doing for her because i dont want her to be selfish or a spoiled brat and i am true to my word. In one hour i expect her to cry as if she is being tortured several times about something minor, i think it is middle child syndrome, she is a good kid, she loves to help out, i always called her my perfect child, a princess, every parents dream child, she is very special to my heart and so are the other kids in their own way. But since the baby she has been very dramatic. It is not serious to where she needs counseling, but i dont want it to elevate, i dont want her to always communicate her frustrations by accusing others or exaggerating or making up stories to get other in trouble to get attention or to knock out competition, she competes with her brother, i tell her she is younger so it is normal for him to know more at times yet there are alot of things she can still bring to the table and teach him, also it does not matter who is better all that matters is no matter what i still love each one of them so there is no need to compete. If he colors she colors, if he watch tv she cries about her not watching her show, even when before my son did it she was not interested in it when i recommended it to her, it is when he does it she wants to do it and control it and have it her way,is this a phase, or should i do something about it before it gets worse. I am not even sure if she has middle child syndrome or is she being a typical 5 year old. My son was like that come to think of it but it was to my little brothers but he was not as dramatic yet each child is different and by 5 my son was not like that any more so since each one of them is different me being perfect mom is going crazy trying to figure out if i done something wrong, is she normal or what? any advice?
 
Dont over think it, shes going to be the middle child for the rest of her life. if you make it out to be something big, then she is going to react in a big way. teach her, without making it a big deal. I have 4 children, they are 6,4,2,4months, they know they have to wait, the baby is already leaning he has to wait. they all know they get equal time and they understand how important family is. So no matter what, they always help each other out.
 
Sugar pye hello. Long time. Thanks for your answer the other day about my situation. I took your advice and it worked.
Dont worry about her acting this way. She will outgrow it. Its normal to feel the way shes feeling. Just let her know you love her and your only focusing on baby cause the youngest child needs more care and shes an older girl and can do more stuff for herself.
Keep in touch RSVP.
 
I'm the middle child in my family, except I'm 15. My little sister is 14 and my older sister is 23. And yes, it honestly does feel like neglect. Even when you grow up, if feels as if your younger and older siblings just get everything. The older one gets everything because she's the first born, and the younger one get spoiled because she's the last baby. There really is no certain way to cure it. Just spend time with her and listen to her as much as you can.
 
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