me & ex have shared parenting. how much should child support total? He wants to do it

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out of court.? We are divorced and alternate from sunday to the following sunday with the children. I'm trying to give him the benefit of a doubt because I really don't want to go to child support as well. Everytime I leave it in his hands he lets me down. I'm on strike 1 for now.
 
The amount of support depends on the amount of "shared parenting". Basically since you each have the children an equal amount of time there shouldn't be any "support".... OTHER than 50/50 on medical bills, school supplies, sports activities, etc.

This should have been resolved in court. But since it wasn't I recommend that you go to court and get it in writing. You divorced this guy for a reason.. chances are he isn't going to change now.
 
Every time you leave it in his hands he lets you down yet you don't want to go to child support. You are divorced, you have obligations toward each other and toward the children. God knows what will happened tomorrow your children need to be protected. If you have a 50/50 custody there should not even be child support. You both support them equally. You still need to put it down on legal papers concerning sharing bigger expenses.
 
go to your local district attorney and ask for that information about how much should be paid per child per month

remember if you have joint custody then you too will have to pay child support to him as he has half custody

this happened to a friend so they opted to not pay child support

good luck
 
Each state has their own child support table. Which state do you live in and I might be able to help? It would also depend on the number of children and age(s).
 
if you have 50/50 custody then the courts won't order child support.

check and see what you state's guidelines are and if you do this privately get it in writing and notarized. this protects him in that if you ever decide to go to court to have it formalized then he has proof that you aren't entitled to back child support and it protects you because if he stops paying then you have a legal document that proves he owes you the money.

BTW: if he's that unreliable then you just may be avoiding the inevitable by trying to keep it out of the courts.
 
OMG.. this is a big no no... You will SO regret not going to court to get a child support order-- you will not get what you deserve in terms of money and I will bet you anything that he will be late or not pay you at all. ALSO, he will constantly use money to control all things to his advantage. I would court order child support-- it will come straight out of his check-- easier for him and you!!!!!!! be smart-- dont let the money interfere with the parenting- take it out of both of your hands.
 
If you alternate weeks then it seems you have split custody 50/50. Because of this I don't understand why you should recieve child support. I can't certainly understand it if you had them more and incurred more expenses like food etc. Perhaps at your home they each have a room wheras with their dad they do not? In any case, if the split is right down the middle then he should continue to pay half of any expenses outside the home, for instance: daycare, medical co-pays and insurance, school program fees, sport registration fees, school supplies etc etc etc.

Generally the usual state-enforced child support is 20% of the income after taxes of the previous year, depending on the state and circumstances. Add 8% for each additional child (again, give or take) However, this is in cases where one parent has sole custdy and the other parent only has visitation; which is generally every other weekend and one weekday (like wednesday). You can see why the custodial parent should recieve support because of this, but in shared custody situations, there is no child support.
 
50/50 custody usually means 0 support unless one of you is below the poverty line in which case the judge in family court will "level the playing field". it is just how it is since one person is not the primary custodial parent. never good idea to do things out of court until you have a parenting plan in place whoever is in physical possession of the children is the custodial parent. this means at anytime he can leave and move out of state with your children and you have no recourse. go get this done. seriously i have been there done that and it is way more expensive emotianally and pocket book wise to wait till the poo hits the fan than to deal with this now. GOOD LUCK!
 
Alot of states have online child support calculators that will give you an estimate of what child support should be based on shared time, income and other factors (insurance, day care etc...)

Try that out and it will give you a starting #. This will give you the benefit of the amount being fair without having to go through the court process.
 
if he already let yu down once, he will do it again,
make it legally binding and take it to court.
You can come to a set amount in court.
For the sake of the kids, put it on legal paper.
 
if he already let yu down once, he will do it again,
make it legally binding and take it to court.
You can come to a set amount in court.
For the sake of the kids, put it on legal paper.
 
Alot of states have online child support calculators that will give you an estimate of what child support should be based on shared time, income and other factors (insurance, day care etc...)

Try that out and it will give you a starting #. This will give you the benefit of the amount being fair without having to go through the court process.
 
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