me and my boyfriend have been dating (sex involved)....?

for a few months. all of a sudden he wants to slow things down. what would your impression be if your boyfriend/girlfriend told you that?

serious answers only

we are both 28

thanks guys!!
 
Sorry to say, but he may only have been in the relationship for the sex.
Maybe he stayed with you until you were ready to have sex, and when it happened, he got what he wanted, so now he wants to leave you.
But considering your age, I would expect both of you to be more mature, not exactly kids in high school, right?

But I can't really say anything. Your boyfriend could be a great guy at heart, and there may be another reason that you don't know about that better explains his behavior.
I don't personally know you, and I'm making assumptions here, so please correct me if I'm wrong.
 
he is a b itch dont stay with him dump him if you want someont to fuck than get someone that is interested in that dont hang with some loser it sounds to me that he is scared or like that he has gotten in trouble with his parents for it .??! hope that i helped and was not to tough on u or him
 
I WOULD SAY YEAH,WE CAN DO THAT,AND FIND ANOTHE PERSON TO MESS WITH,THEN THROW HINTS THAT IM SEEING SOMEONE ELSE HE'LL GET THE HINT THAT HE NEED TO STEP HIS GAME BACK UP
 
guys dont have secret codes like girls do haha. what a guy says is what he means..its not like when a girl says "im fine" haha

maybe he realizes that you are both at a mature age and things may be getting serious, but he just wants to take his time to make sure, and so you dont think marriage or anything too soon.
 
I had a GF that I had to tell this to before. It was a slightly different situation because we were together twice before, and she kinda screwed it up both times. So I told her after her pushing me for months to that she wanted all kinds of things with me, and even telling me at one point that she expected more at this point. I had to tell her that she was pushing too hard and to slow down. I wanted to take it slow and see how things developed. I had many feelings for her but I didnt want to loose focus on the fact that she hurt me before and could do it again. So I told her I wanted to slow down or keep it steady. I wanted to see if I could trust her, if I could feel like that again without hurting.

I wasnt sending her an encrypted message for some special girl deciphering. She of course thought I was, and took it every which way she wanted to. I kept telling her it is for us to improve, and make it better that we slow down a little. I even told her that if it was a bad thing, why would I still be here trying. Again she girl translated that to I just wanted sex. That wasnt the case at all. I was there because I cared enough to try, I was slowing down because I cared enough to try to make an effort to make it work.

I am sure thats all he is doing. He is probably feeling a lil cold feet between his bachelorhood and his family outlook. Also you might want to consider the amount of time you too have been together, that was never said. If it is years, again I would say it is a transitional thing, if it is months, i would say you need to slow down too :-)

Hope this helps good Luck
 
my thoughts is that he likes what he has at the moment he doesnt want to chance moving to quickly and ruining it by pressuring you or offending you sounds like you have a winner best of luck to the both of you
 
im only 17
but mi take on it
is that he could be scared of
getting u pregnant
and maybe the thought of marriage, etc scares him
u both are still young
and im sure he's prolly thinking
about not wanting to parent
 
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