Man, I'll tell you, I am having trouble getting back into the swing of things after...

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i feel this way because of the extra weight I have gained since my baby. but im sure everything will find its place and things will be back to normal.
 
...having a baby? My baby is now a toddler and I am having a lot of problems with, low confidence, stress and loneliness. I think all of my bad qualities are magnified and my good qualities have shrunken away! It seems like I am always in a bad mood and I can't seem to get on top of it. I am not bonding with other women, and I feel very distant from my husband. I have joined a moms club, but it doesn't help. Did anyone else feel this way, or does anyone have any advice?
 
I felt this way after my first child was born and he was a toddler about 6 years ago. I had been a very outgoing, bubbly, happy woman. When I became a mom I thought I sucked at everything dealing with my son. My husband even mentioned why I wasn't having fun and taking care of yself. Honestly what helped for me was going on wellbutrin for about 6 months. After that I started working out religiously and joined a city league for othe rmoms to play basketball, volleyball, and softball. After that I was fine.

After my second was born I noticed those same feelings again. But this time no wellbutrin, just tried to give it a go and see if things went back to 'normal'. I don't think it wil, you just gotta make things a priority, namely yourself. Find something that you enjoy outside of 'momdom'.

Try to get along time with your hubby, get a babysitter to helpwith this.

Are you taking care of yourself? As in getting up and getting dressed/makeup/hair done? I find when I don't do these things I feel really bad an dfocus on all that during the day. But when I do get a little dressed and look pretty I feel good even aobut spending 5 minutes reading to my girl.

Good luck, it is hard, just keep your head up.
 
You're adjusting to your new life. It's huge-- it took me awhile, but I have adjusted. :) Good luck. Go easy on yourself- you're only human.
 
Give it time. Don't feel bad. It happens to most mothers. Don't worry, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
 
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