Lost virginity to sex toy?

[Melissa]

I'm 22 years old and a virgin. My boyfriend, who is 22 and also a virgin, told me that since I've used a dildo in the past I am not considered a virgin anymore since I've been penetrated (by the toy) and that since he is on the smaller side, that he won't be big enough for me now... which I think he was trying to say that I won't be small enough for him anymore. I told him that women give birth and they're normal down there... but I feel so upset now that he thinks I'm all stretched out down there (the dildo I have is only 5 inches and it's not very thick). He said he's hurt that I've used one before and he made me feel horrible that I broke my own hymen. He said he's worried that he won't be able to pleasure me. This is a piece of what he said exactly: "your vagina would be bigger cause you penetrated yourself techinically not being a virgin. i wouldnt be big enough because you would be penetrated"

Please tell me what you think about this... I feel horrible
And please give me some tips on how to tighten myself down there, if it's possible... I'm so worried it won't feel good for him now
He is a virgin but he's more experienced than me... he has given and received oral sex with a different girl a couple years before he met me. He's also told me he had phone sex before. I've never done any of these things, but I have a really high sex drive and I masturbate nearly every day, sometimes multiple times... which now I feel really regretful over. He's made me so worried...